I’m Not Perfect – I’m Only Human: How to Beat Perfectionism with Darlene Lancer

I’m Not Perfect – I’m Only Human: How to Beat Perfectionism with Darlene Lancer

If you’ve ever felt like you’re stuck in a cycle of trying to be perfect, this episode of Mental Health News Radio is for you. Darlene Lancer joins the show to chat about perfectionism and how it can sneak into our lives, affecting everything from our self-esteem to our relationships.

With over 30 years of experience as a marriage and family therapist, Darlene offers a wealth of knowledge on the topic, drawing from her book "I’m Not Perfect – I’m Only Human: How to Beat Perfectionism". She explores how perfectionism is often tied to shame, especially among those struggling with codependency or low self-esteem. Darlene breaks down the types of perfectionism, highlighting the difference between positive and negative perfectionism.

While some might use their perfectionist tendencies to boost their self-esteem, others find it creates anxiety and depression. The conversation dives into how these unrealistic standards can lead to a spiral of self-doubt and indecision, making everyday tasks feel overwhelming. The episode isn’t just about recognising the problem but also offers practical steps to manage perfectionism.

Darlene suggests creating a pie chart to assess which areas of your life are most affected and encourages listeners to evaluate the costs and benefits of their perfectionistic habits. This approach helps identify whether your standards are realistic or if they’re causing more harm than good. With light-hearted anecdotes and insightful advice, Darlene provides a refreshing take on overcoming perfectionism.

Whether you’re battling perfectionism yourself or know someone who is, this episode offers valuable tools to help break free from its grip. So why not give it a listen and see how you can embrace being perfectly imperfect?