Love Is The Antidote To Fear

Love Is The Antidote To Fear

As he puts it, “The opposite of love ain’t hate… the opposite of love, man, is being selfish.” You’ll hear him connect his recovery to his growing relationship with Christ, the Holy Spirit, and scriptures like “deny yourself, pick up your cross, and follow me.” He talks about centring prayer, sitting in silence with God, and realising that most of his problems started in his mind – and that “over 99.9% of the problems that we have in life is in our mind, man… and 100% of the solutions… are spiritual.” This episode speaks directly to people who use relationships, work, substances, even energy drinks and pornography to change their mood.

Curious about how others navigate their sobriety journey? This conversation from *That Christian In Recovery* follows Vernon as he talks frankly about how love, fear, and self-centred thinking play out in everyday life – especially for those in recovery. Speaking as a Christian and a recovering addict, Vernon shares how he once thought love came from people doing what he wanted. When they didn’t, he pulled away, held resentments, and tried to control everything.

Vernon keeps it real about mood-altering habits, low self-worth, and that nagging feeling of not being worthy of God’s gifts – from his rebuilt family to the home he once feared losing for no rational reason. At its heart, the message is simple but challenging: learn to love God, love yourself, and put others first. Loving differences instead of trying to “fix, manage, and control” people becomes the antidote to fear and self-obsession.

If you’re wrestling with addiction, recovery, or just feeling broken and unlovable, this honest, spiritually grounded chat might leave you asking: what would change if you stopped trying to fix everything and simply let yourself be loved?