Necessary Endings (Archive - Episode 7)

Necessary Endings (Archive - Episode 7)

How do people cope with the challenges of staying sober and actually grow up emotionally? This archived conversation from Relational Recovery zeroes in on what the hosts call “necessary endings” and why taking ownership of your life matters so much for recovery. Host Wes Thompson and co-host Austin Hill talk frankly about the tendency to wait for others to fix us.

Wes compares that mindset to a child expecting parents to handle everything, from school runs to making sure they’re not wearing pyjamas to dinner. For adults in recovery, they argue, that approach just keeps you stuck. As Wes puts it, “No one should care about your maturity and growth as much as you do… You can do this.

You can grow, but go get it.” The episode focuses heavily on seeking out mentors and wise voices instead of blaming circumstances or people around you.

Austin highlights the value of surrounding yourself with people you’ve actually invited to “speak into” your life – people with different perspectives and areas of expertise who’ll tell you when you’re “messing up or falling short.” Rather than pretending to have it all together, these mentors model growth by openly sharing how they’ve failed and what they’ve learned.

There’s also a strong challenge: if you feel stuck and resentful, it may be time for some hard decisions – ending unhealthy relationships, changing jobs, or stepping away from foolish influences.

The Refuge Ministry is framed as a safe place to get support, but Wes is crystal clear that “we’re not going to do your work for you.” If you’re tired of feeling stuck and waiting for someone else to sort you out, this conversation might nudge you to ask: who do you need to stop blaming, and who do you need to start asking for help from today?