Stop Rescuing Everyone: Let Go, Let God & Let People Have Their Consequences | Ep. 683

Stop Rescuing Everyone: Let Go, Let God & Let People Have Their Consequences | Ep. 683

What drives someone to seek a life without alcohol and still want to control everything anyway? This question sits at the heart of episode 683 of Busy Living Sober, where host Elizabeth “Bizzy” Chance talks honestly about being a fixer, a mum and a long-time sober woman learning to let go.

Speaking solo, Bizzy reflects on a line she heard in a recovery meeting that hit her square between the eyes: “Every person gets to have their own consequences.” From there, she unpacks how hard Step Three was for her: handing her will, and especially her children’s lives, over to God. As she puts it, “I play God and it doesn’t work.

All it does is leave people resentful.” You’ll hear her wrestle with the urge to jump in with advice, and the simple shift of asking, “Do you want my opinion?” instead of assuming every problem shared needs fixing. She ties this to Al-Anon wisdom – “I didn’t cause it. I can’t control it and I can’t cure it” – and shows how that mindset helps families of people in addiction step back without abandoning love.

The episode leans heavily into faith, daily Bible reading, and the idea of trusting God with both big fears and everyday anxieties.

Bizzy talks about money worries, politics, safety, and fear of change, all through the lens of letting go, breathing, praying, and accepting that “God has you.” She also shares how, after more than twenty years sober, what she wants most now is peace, serenity and the freedom that comes from dropping the cape and admitting she’s not Wonder Woman.

If you’ve ever tried to rescue everyone around you, or felt crushed by fear about your loved ones’ choices, this conversation might nudge you to pause, breathe, and ask: what if letting go is actually the kindest thing you can do?