The End of Swiping? How HAEVN Is Reinventing Online Dating with Rik FooteThe End of Swiping? How HAEVN Is Reinventing Online Dating with Rik Foote
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Andrew and Rick Foote talk about HAEVN, a city-based matchmaking network that uses intent and compatibility scoring instead of swiping. The conversation focuses on dating over 50, frustration with traditional apps, and how a more structured, local approach might better suit midlife daters.
55:42•26 Sept 2026
Swipe Fatigue After 50: Andrew and Rick Foote Talk Intentional Matching with HAEVN
Episode Overview
- HAEVN replaces swipe-based dating with a detailed, intent-focused questionnaire and weekly texted matches.
- Matches are only introduced when an 80% or higher compatibility score is reached, using gates and weighted factors.
- The network is built city by city, focusing on local communities and curated date spots rather than nationwide browsing.
- Membership fees are structured as six- or twelve-month access, positioned as a lower-cost alternative to traditional matchmakers.
- Dating over 50 is highlighted as a key audience, with Andrew sharing his own fatigue and desire for more meaningful connections.
“We don’t believe that AI or technology can predict a human connection.”
Curious about how others navigate their sobriety journey? Here, the focus shifts from alcohol to romantic connection, as dating over 50 collides with tech fatigue and swipe burnout. Host Andrew chats with guest Rick Foote, founder of HAEVN, a matchmaking network built for people who are tired of endless scrolling and ghosting on traditional dating apps. You’ll hear Andrew share his own frustration with dating apps, including buying a lifetime membership on Bumble and still feeling “done” with swipe culture.
Rick explains that HAEVN is deliberately avoiding the app model and swiping altogether. Instead, people complete a detailed 15–20 minute questionnaire once, then receive text alerts on “Match Monday” when the system has found someone with an 80% or higher compatibility score. Rick’s core idea is intent-based matching. Rather than starting with photos, HAEVN begins with what people actually want: long-term relationship or casual, exclusive or non-exclusive, attachment style, sexual compatibility, political views, even how strongly they hold those views.
As Rick puts it, “We don’t believe that AI or technology can predict a human connection,” so the tech is used to support human matchmaking rather than replace it. The episode also touches on affordability and trust. Rick contrasts HAEVN’s six- and twelve-month membership structure with the recurring charges and gamified algorithms of big-name apps, describing his project as a lower-cost alternative to traditional matchmakers.
Andrew brings in his own experience of being over 60, living near New York City, and feeling worn out by dating culture, making this conversation especially relatable for single people in midlife. If you’re over 50, exhausted by swiping, and wondering whether a more intentional match process could fit your values, this chat may get you thinking: what would dating feel like if the starting point was who you are, not just how you look?
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