You Are Not Your Addiction

You Are Not Your Addiction

Curious about how others navigate their sobriety journey? This conversation between Coach Blu Robinson and his co-host Wendell Wood takes a frank look at addiction, faith, shame, and what real healing can look like when you stop pretending everything’s fine.

Aimed at men but clearly resonating with a big female audience too, the chat centres on a simple but powerful idea: "to understand that you are not your addiction." Blu and Wendell talk about how insecurities and self-doubt creep in early, especially around pornography and substance use, and how many people end up believing, "this has been their lot in life for so long" that change feels impossible.

They unpack the tricky overlap between religious culture and recovery, especially in Latter-day Saint communities. Wendell shares how "pray more" and "try a little harder" never addressed the trauma behind his behaviour, while Blu points out that many church leaders are "lay leaders" without clinical training, which can mean a heavy focus on sin and worthiness instead of shame, trauma and compulsive behaviour. You’ll hear honest discussion about the impact on partners too.

Wendell describes betrayal, anger and numbness in relationships, and stresses that a spouse’s pain isn’t "secondary" or on a timetable. His advice? "Make space for your partner's anger. Make space for their hurt. Make space for their healing. Don't try to put a timeline on it." Group support, specialist therapy and safe spaces where "nobody runs out shrieking" all come up as crucial parts of recovery.

Blu and Wendell keep things grounded and human – a mix of humour, hard truths and practical encouragement – while reminding everyone that worth is inherent, and that healing happens in connection, not isolation. If you’ve ever felt like your addiction defines you, or worried about what honesty might cost, this conversation might get you asking a new question: what if you didn’t have to do this alone?