110: Moving Through The Fear

110: Moving Through The Fear

Curious about how others manage their sobriety journey? This episode of "You're Sober! Now What?" focuses on what happens when fear tries to keep you stuck, even after you’ve put down the drink or other compulsive behaviours.

Host Tamar Medford talks frankly about staying in her comfort zone during addiction, even though, as she says, "it was incredibly uncomfortable." She explains how numbing emotions with substances meant she "stopped growing at the age of 14," and how early recovery forced her to face decades’ worth of feelings, responsibility and change. You’ll hear how she cried more in her first years sober than in her entire life, and why that emotional flood became the foundation for long-term growth.

From shaking at a podium during her first speaking gigs, to obsessing over podcast download numbers, to the terror of leaving a stable corporate job, Tamar walks through concrete examples of fear showing up at every stage of recovery and entrepreneurship. She doesn’t pretend it was easy: writing brutally honest books, sharing her story with her parents, and starting a business all triggered old anxieties around shame, security and perfectionism.

Instead of staying stuck, she shares four practical ways she’s learned to move through fear: building faith that her needs will be met, challenging fixed beliefs to build a growth mindset, strengthening emotional intelligence so triggers don’t derail her, and treating discomfort as evidence of growth.

As she puts it, "when we are uncomfortable, that is just our body's way of saying, hey, you're growing here." This episode speaks directly to people in recovery who feel called to more—whether that’s speaking up, starting a project, or changing careers—but find themselves paralysed by what-ifs. If fear has been running the show for too long, could it be time to step outside that comfort zone and see what you’re truly capable of?