117. My #1 Sobriety Hack for Deep Feelers After Overstimulating Events117. My #1 Sobriety Hack for Deep Feelers After Overstimulating Events
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Amanda Kuda shares her idea of a "sobriety palate cleanse" to help deep feelers manage the uncomfortable comedown after overstimulating social events. She explains how planned, calming detours can ease rumination and overwhelm while supporting an alcohol-free lifestyle.
9:32•29 Apr 2026
My #1 Sobriety Hack for Deep Feelers After Overstimulating Events
Episode Overview
- Introduce a "sobriety palate cleanse" by planning a calm, controlled stop after overstimulating events instead of going straight home.
- Recognise that going from high social intensity to zero can be jarring for the nervous system and may trigger cravings for a wind-down drink.
- Choose environments like a quiet coffee shop or vintage store rather than crowded, hectic places to create a gentle ramp-down.
- Practise self-advocacy by telling partners or friends in advance that you may need a detour to regulate after certain events.
- Accept that being a deep feeler means you might need different post-event routines, and honour those needs without seeing yourself as a burden.
“"Going home is like putting on the emergency brake and going 100 to 0 so quickly."”
What makes a recovery story truly inspiring? This conversation with alcohol-free lifestyle coach Amanda Kuda zooms in on a group that often feels misunderstood: the "deep feelers" who get overwhelmed by big social events and then crave a drink once they get home.
Amanda chats about people who are highly sensitive, empathic or "neuro-spicy" and how they can stay alcohol-free at weddings, showers and parties, yet feel so agitated afterward that a glass of wine starts sounding like the only way to unwind. She explains how your nervous system can go from "running at 100 miles per hour" to a sudden stop, and why that jarring shift can feel unbearable. Her simple but clever solution? A "sobriety palate cleanse".
Instead of heading straight home, she suggests choosing a calm, controlled detour like a vintage shop or a quiet coffee stop. There, you still have gentle stimulation, but on your own terms. As she puts it, "going home is like putting on the emergency brake and going 100 to 0 so quickly"; the palate cleanse becomes a ramp that helps you slow down more comfortably.
Through her own stories – including a baby shower full of strangers and a birthday party where she had to be “on” for everyone – Amanda shows how planned pit stops can reduce rumination, ease overstimulation and keep you from reaching for a “wind-down” drink. You’ll also hear her urge deep feelers to self-advocate: to tell partners and friends, "I need a detour on the way home," even if it feels like a big ask.
Anyone who’s sober curious or already alcohol-free but emotionally sensitive is likely to feel seen, and might walk away wondering: what could your own palate cleanse look like after a draining event?
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