218: Different Day218: Different Day
Since Right Now
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1:06:30•21 Nov 2020
Different Day, Same Sobriety: Breaks, Breakups and Building a New Life
Episode Overview
- Stepping back when you’re “not up to it” can be healthier than pushing through out of guilt.
- Sobriety can make big adult moves possible, like securing housing and work independently after years of chaos.
- Success in recovery may trigger urges to self‑sabotage, so staying “really careful” is crucial even when things are going well.
- Parenting in recovery includes facing past guilt, setting boundaries and accepting that kids will still drive you mad.
- Anger itself isn’t the problem; what matters is how you respond to it and whether it leads to growth or more damage.
“I really feel like I can trust myself with this thing I care about.”
Curious about how others navigate their sobriety journey? This catch‑up episode of *Since Right Now* drops you right into the messy, funny, very human side of staying sober through big life changes and global chaos. Jeff, Matt and Chris are back after a break, and they’re brutally honest about why. Chris simply admits, “I wasn’t up to it.
The end.” Instead of pushing through for the sake of the show, he chose self‑preservation over guilt – a theme anyone in recovery will recognise. The emotional centre comes from Matt, who’s around six years sober and on “about day 10” in his new house after a relationship ended. He talks about rebuilding from scratch – finances, credit, parenting, career – and doing it *sober* and on his own terms.
His line, “I really feel like I can trust myself with this thing I care about,” captures that quiet shift from chaos to genuine self‑trust. He’s honest about his urge to “stir up a little chaos” and how quickly he could “burn this to the ground”, which makes his caution and care feel hard‑won rather than cheesy. Jeff and Chris weave in their own changes: job loss, work stress, political anxiety, family tension and pandemic fatigue.
Instead of pretending to be serene gurus, they joke about self‑sabotage, “acting in defiance of my instinct,” and whether the AA “spiritual axiom” means you can *never* be justifiably angry. This one’s especially suited to people in recovery who’ve been feeling flat, guilty for stepping back, or nervous about how success might trigger old patterns. You’ll hear sobriety handled with humour, swearing, cartoons, owls and raccoons – but also a lot of honesty about fear, anger and rebuilding.
If you’ve ever wondered whether the “promises” can show up as a new house, better boundaries and kids who still annoy you, this episode might have you asking: what could my next sober chapter look like?
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