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Since Right Now
We left you with a cliffhanger, or maybe it was a…
36:30•18 Aug 2022
Cliffbangers, Chaos and Self‑Sabotage in Recovery Stories
Episode Overview
- Geographic moves rarely fix anything; they usually just move the chaos to a new location.
- Lonely substance use in hotel rooms highlights how quickly “fun” turns into isolation and fear.
- Self-sabotage often shows up at key moments, like moves, marriages or career changes.
- Many people in recovery recognise a pull toward chaos even after they stop drinking and using.
- Contentment can be built over time through practices like meditation and presence, as shown by long‑sober relatives.
“It was the most pathetic thing… and it’s a testament to the bullshit we get up to.”
Get ready to be moved by real-life accounts of chaotic nights, bad decisions, and the strange comfort of finally saying them out loud. This episode of Since Right Now has Jeff, Matt and Chris swapping war stories from their using days, starting with Chris’s absurd mission to fly across the country just to find a single “party bro” in a city of millions.
What begins as a funny drunk-detective caper quickly turns bleak and ridiculous: broke, alone in a grim motel, fuelled by booze and cocaine, Chris ends up fleeing his room at 4 a.m. because an irate stranger on the phone insists, “If you’re there when I get there, you’re going down with her too, motherfucker.” He packs his bags and wanders the streets for hours, suitcase in hand, convinced he’s about to be shot.
As he puts it, “it was the most pathetic thing… and it’s a testament to the bullshit we get up to.” From there, the conversation veers into other memories: road trips for no reason, cracked-out gun stories, and friends who still moved Chris out of his flat even when he disappeared on a binge.
The humour is dark and sharp, but underneath it sits a serious thread: self‑sabotage, worthiness, and that strange urge to blow life up right when things matter most. The trio also talk about guns, family myths, and the odd pull of chaos even in sobriety. They question why contentment can feel so foreign and share examples of people, like Chris’s Uncle John, who have built calm, present lives through years of sobriety and practice.
If you like your recovery conversations messy, honest and slightly sweary, this episode gives plenty to relate to and laugh at while quietly nudging you to ask: where does chaos still run the show in your own life?

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