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THE STAR MONROE SHOW
Star Monroe shares three "dark psychology" tricks aimed at helping midlife women become obsessed with themselves and their desires. The episode focuses on reclaiming energy, honouring inner codes and transforming uncomfortable emotions into power.
28:57•10 Aug 2026
Three Dark Psychology Hacks to Become Obsessed With Yourself
Episode Overview
- Stop waiting for permission and actively choose yourself and your desires.
- Stay in your own lane by noticing where your energy and attention are leaking into other people’s lives.
- Honour your internal codes by replacing fantasy-only thinking with small, audacious actions you can take today.
- Build self-trust through tiny, sustainable promises to yourself rather than grand, unrealistic commitments.
- Treat difficult emotions like jealousy, rage and shame as parts to be welcomed and transformed into personal power.
“No one is going to come along and give you permission to choose yourself. You have to write your very own darn permission slip.”
What drives someone to seek a life that’s fully centred on their own desires? This episode of THE STAR MONROE SHOW zeros in on midlife women who are tired of dimming their inner fire to keep everyone else comfortable and happy. You’ll hear a straight-talking, occasionally sweary, and often funny breakdown of three "dark psychology" tricks aimed at helping women become unapologetically obsessed with themselves.
Star Monroe speaks directly to women who’ve spent years smoothing things over for others while their own desires sit on the back burner. She argues that "no one is going to come along and give you permission to choose yourself" and stresses that you’ve got to write your own permission slip and focus on your own aliveness.
Her style is raw, candid and packed with personal stories, including her past with addiction, bankruptcy and toxic relationships, all used to show how small, sustainable changes can rebuild self-trust. The first trick is about noticing where your energy and attention are going and "staying in your own lane" instead of climbing into everyone else’s metaphorical car.
The second focuses on honouring your internal codes by stopping fantasy-only thinking and taking audacious, doable action today, through tiny promises you can keep. The third addresses shadow work — learning to sit with jealousy, rage, shame and fear without numbing or running, and then using those energies as fuel. You’ll get a mix of practical mindset tools, everyday examples, and colourful metaphors (including a baby blue Rolls-Royce) that make serious topics feel accessible.
If you’re a midlife woman ready to stop waiting for permission and start leading your life like the "leading a-lister" Star insists you are, this episode might be the nudge you’ve been craving. So, are you ready to get back in your own car and drive towards what you truly want?
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