Being Convinced We Were at Step ThreeBeing Convinced We Were at Step Three
RAW Recovery Podcast
Dion shares a candid mix of depression, humour, and Big Book reading while talking through what it means to be truly convinced at Step Three. The episode focuses on living amends, self-centredness, and practical, everyday actions that support genuine change in recovery.
44:21•6 Nov 2026
Raw Honesty on Step Three, Living Amends, and Depression
Episode Overview
- True amends are shown through changed behaviour, not repeated apologies.
- Living amends can start with simple daily tasks like cleaning, cooking, and showing up consistently at home.
- Selfishness and self-centred thinking are identified as core issues that must be addressed for Step Three to work.
- Service work and holding space for others can ease depression and shorten its grip.
- Accepting help from a higher power and other people is presented as essential for long-term recovery and freedom.
“There is only one amends and it's changed behaviour.”
What drives someone to seek a life without alcohol? This RAW Recovery episode follows Dion as he talks honestly about being "convinced" at Step Three, while openly sitting in the thick of a depressive spell. It’s not polished or pretty, and that’s exactly the point. You’ll hear Dion start by sharing how his cat’s illness triggered deep depression and a painful sense of not belonging, even though he logically knows he does.
Instead of hiding it, he chooses to be transparent: he talks about skipping a meeting, feeling overwhelmed, and how empathy can become so intense it physically hurts. That raw mood sets the stage for a very real look at Step Three and living amends. Drawing from the Big Book, Dion breaks down the idea of turning "our will and our life over to God as we understood Him" and why selfishness sits at the root of so many problems.
He jokes, swears, and keeps it simple, stressing that spirituality is about action, not overthinking: "Most good ideas are simple… there is only one amends and it's changed behaviour." For anyone who’s tired of saying sorry and not changing, this hits hard. He talks through practical living amends – doing the dishes, making dinner, mowing the lawn – as the real evidence of change, especially in relationships strained by alcohol.
He links his own freedom from constant fear that "people don’t like me" to making the amends he can, and standing willing for those he’s been advised not to make. The episode’s style is conversational, sweary, and full of Big Book reading mixed with humour about cats, being a Virgo planner, and defiance songs about God.
It’s aimed at people in recovery who want straight talk on the Steps, plus those battling depression and wondering if service, honesty, and a higher power can still carry them through. If you’ve ever asked yourself, "Am I really ready for Step Three?" this session might be the nudge you need to look at your own behaviour and decide what you’re truly willing to change.
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