Choosing Your Reality: Codependency, Spiritual Awakening, and Aligning With Who You Are BecomingChoosing Your Reality: Codependency, Spiritual Awakening, and Aligning With Who You Are Becoming
Recover Your Soul: A Spiritual Path to a Happy and Healthy Life
Rev. Rachel Harrison reflects on Step Seven of her Recover Your Soul process, focusing on aligning with a new perception and choosing your reality. She shares stories of codependency, spiritual awakening, and learning to stop self-abandonment in favour of living from a higher, more authentic self.
29:39•27 Apr 2026
Choosing Your Reality: Letting Go of Codependency and Becoming Your True Self
Episode Overview
- Shifting from old patterns of codependency and self-abandonment begins by aligning with a new, healthier perception of yourself and your life.
- Choosing your reality means consciously matching thought, word, and action with your higher self, even when external circumstances are challenging.
- Recognising the difference between processing deep emotions and simply sharing a story can prevent slipping back into a victim role.
- Allowing old systems, relationships, and roles to crumble creates space to step into who you are becoming rather than who others expect you to be.
- Becoming your own best friend—offering yourself compassion, curiosity, and honesty—supports long-term spiritual and emotional recovery.
“We can no longer abandon ourselves and we must and will choose who we are becoming because that's who we are here to be.”
What drives someone to seek a life without abandoning themselves? This conversation with Rev. Rachel Harrison centres on that exact shift: moving from codependency and people-pleasing into a life aligned with who you’re becoming, rather than who you’ve always been.
Speaking from her own recovery from alcoholism, codependency, and control addiction, Rachel talks through Step Seven of her Recover Your Soul nine-step process: “Align with a new perception.” She carefully distinguishes perception from perspective and invites you to “choose your reality” by matching your thoughts, words, and actions with your higher self.
As she puts it, “We can no longer abandon ourselves and… we must and will choose who we are becoming because that's who we are here to be.” You’ll hear how patterns like people-pleasing, victimhood, and over-giving keep people stuck, even when their intentions are loving. Rachel links this to a wider “great awakening” where old systems are crumbling and many are realising that putting everyone else first actually keeps everyone small.
Her retreat experiences with women show how deeply childhood and relationship wounds shape self-protection, and how powerful it can be to gently let those systems go. A standout moment is Rachel’s honest story about being called out in a women’s group for over-sharing from her pain body. Instead of collapsing into shame, she uses her own tools—journaling and Higher Self connection—to ask what she needs to learn.
This sparks a fresh understanding of the difference between sharing and processing, and a firm commitment to live more consistently from her “new perception”. If you’re wrestling with codependency, feeling responsible for everyone else, or trying to step into a spiritually grounded version of yourself, this conversation offers companionship, clarity, and a gentle nudge to ask: who are you ready to become next?
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