Confident, Calm, Assertive

Confident, Calm, Assertive

How do people find strength in their journey to sobriety? This conversation on Addict II Athlete leans right into that question by looking at self-worth, boundaries, and how to handle the "haters" who show up when you start changing your life. Coach Blu Robinson and athletic director Marissa Robinson use everyday stories – from overpriced Snickers bars in a desert petrol station to the tiny Mona Lisa and flawed diamonds – to talk about value.

Their point is simple but powerful: you set your own worth, not the people who knew you at your worst. As Coach Blu puts it, "any relationship that you have, relationships with you is a privilege, not a right." The episode speaks directly to people in recovery and their families, especially those dealing with trolls online, critical relatives, or old friends who preferred the "old you".

Blu and Marissa unpack why some people try to pull you back down, compare them to "crabs in a bucket", and explain how codependent roles in families can resist your progress. There’s plenty of practical advice: using a simple "thanks for sharing" and walking away instead of taking the bait; choosing which battles are worth your emotional energy; and remembering that you can accept or reject any comment, even if it stings.

They borrow from Caesar Millan’s "calm and assertive" approach, suggesting you repeat those words to yourself when facing criticism so you respond with steady confidence instead of fear. It’s an easy-listen mix of humour, parenting stories, dog-training analogies and honest talk about painful family dynamics, all aimed at helping people in recovery build stronger boundaries and a healthier sense of self.

You’ll come away asking yourself a tough but important question: which relationships in your life deserve that calm, confident, assertive version of you?