Dating, Intimacy & Infidelity After 50 with Sara SloanDating, Intimacy & Infidelity After 50 with Sara Sloan
Anonymous Andrew
Anonymous Andrew and therapist Sara Sloan talk frankly about dating, sex, infidelity and intimacy after 50, with a focus on Imago therapy and changing desire. Their conversation looks at attachment styles, sexual fluidity and how couples can stay connected as bodies and needs evolve.
1:00:51•2 Sept 2026
Dating, Desire and Infidelity After 50 with Therapist Sara Sloan
Episode Overview
- Imago therapy uses guided sentence stems and mirroring to help couples move from surface arguments into deeper emotions and shared understanding.
- Many men in long‑term, low‑sex marriages question their future and feel unseen erotically, while their partners often have "no idea" until therapy uncovers it.
- Women over 45 frequently show more sexual fluidity, including affairs or consensual experiences with other women, especially around menopause and midlife shifts.
- Attachment styles can flip between anxious and avoidant depending on the relationship, and recognising this dynamic is key for dating and relationships over 50.
- Successful intimacy later in life often focuses on touch and non‑penetrative connection, accepting that ageing bodies still deserve pleasure without shame.
“What I hear is, you know, is this all I'm going to have for the rest of my life? Is this it?”
How do people find strength in their journey to sobriety? This conversation between Anonymous Andrew and therapist Sara Sloan goes straight into the messy middle of long‑term relationships, dating later in life, and how sex and intimacy shift after 50. Sara, a licensed marriage and family therapist, certified sex therapist and Imago relationship therapist from Austin, shares both professional experience and personal stories.
She talks about her own "scorched earth" divorce, her surprise second chance at love via an old-school Match.com profile, and how that journey pushed her into specialising in couples and sex therapy. You’ll hear Sara break down Imago therapy in everyday language, using simple examples like arguments over dishes to show how couples can move from anger into deeper feelings of fear, hurt and sadness.
She explains how "dialoguing" and mirroring (repeating back what you heard) can change the whole tone of a conversation, whether you’re 22 and newly living together or 60 and staring at each other in an empty nest wondering, "Do we even like each other anymore?" The chat gets very candid about sex and infidelity over 50. Sara notes she often sees men asking, "Is this all I'm going to have for the rest of my life?
Is this it?" after years in sexless marriages, and women whose sexuality becomes more openly fluid, sometimes leading to affairs with other women or consensual non‑monogamy. There’s open discussion of swinging, kink parties, ethical non‑monogamy, attachment styles, menopause, erectile issues and why intimacy after 50 often means "pretty much everything but penetration". Sara’s core message is simple: bodies change, desire changes, and shame makes it worse. Honest communication, humour and redefining intimacy can keep connection alive at any age.
If you’re over 50 and wondering "Is this it?", maybe it’s time to ask what you really want – and who you want to talk to about it.
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