Don't Want ItDon't Want It
Alive and Free
You get in your own way more than you think. This is especially true when you want something — like more money, a better relationship with your spouse, or to ditch your mental health problems. Here’s the trouble: The more you want...
19:47•18 Feb 2021
The Art of Becoming: A New Path to Happiness and Freedom
Episode Overview
- The host shares a pivotal lesson from his martial arts teacher, Vladimir, about the nature of desire and striving
- He explains how our relentless pursuit of change and improvement can hinder our progress
- The episode offers a different approach: becoming the thing you seek, whether it's happiness, freedom, or mastery
- By shifting focus from wanting to becoming, true transformation and fulfillment can be achieved
- Listeners are encouraged to break free from the limitations of their desires and embrace a life of true fulfillment
“Your desire to have it gone from your life is the thing that's keeping it around. Become. Focus all of your energies and all of your mental effort onto the thing you're seeking to create. Just go create something good. Go create something valuable. And if you hold your mind there enough to where the other thing just ceases to be a part of your consciousness, guess what? It's gone. You've become happiness. You've become freedom. And it'll follow you everywhere.”
Ever feel like the more you chase something, the further it slips away? In this episode of 'Alive and Free', Bob Gardner shares a transformative lesson from his martial arts teacher, Vladimir. Picture this: Bob, eager to master martial arts, is met with Vladimir's surprising advice, 'Don't want it'. This simple yet profound statement flips the script on how we approach our deepest desires.
Instead of wanting more money, better relationships, or improved mental health, Bob suggests a radical shift – become what you seek. If you crave happiness, start by embodying happiness itself. Bob dives into how our ancient survival instincts can sabotage us, creating anxiety and blocking our progress. He reveals a three-word trick to counteract this and discusses the sneaky ways that wanting something too much can poison our minds.
With practical tips and heartfelt anecdotes, Bob guides listeners on how to always be filled with joy, even during tough times. He introduces the 'Building Happiness Approach', a method that not only boosts creativity and intelligence but also strengthens the immune system. This episode is a must-listen for anyone tired of the endless cycle of wanting and ready to embrace a life of becoming.
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