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Recovery Nuggets Podcast
Ella Deaver shares her journey from long-term daily drinking to sobriety, therapy work and solo travel, highlighting how recovery reshapes her life and values. The conversation touches on consequences, spiritual growth, practical therapy tools and simple recovery "nuggets" for anyone unsure about seeking help.
42:03•19 Apr 2026
Recovering Your Own Life: Ella Deaver’s Story on Sobriety, Therapy and Travel
Episode Overview
- Feeling different or "othered" from an early age can feed into addiction, even if family drinking looks moderate on the surface.
- Consequences that keep getting closer together are a strong signal that drinking has stopped "working", regardless of outward success.
- Being fired while newly sober can become a turning point, creating space to focus on meetings, community and early recovery.
- Acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) helps people look at whether their actions match their core values instead of trying to control every thought.
- Staying sober becomes easier than getting sober again, so building routines, support and things to look forward to can make long-term recovery more sustainable.
“You're not just recovering from your drug of choice when you come into recovery. You're recovering your own life.”
What drives someone to seek a life without alcohol? This conversation on Recovery Nuggets Podcast follows Ella Deaver as she talks about 25 years of drinking, the moment everything fell apart, and how that collapse led to a very different kind of life. Ella shares how growing up between Mormon Utah and Germany left her feeling "othered" and lonely, even while her parents modelled what she calls "normal drinking".
That contrast – a house with moderate drinkers and her own secret slide into daily alcohol – sets the stage for years of rationalising, hypocrisy and quiet shame. She jokes that she never got a DUI but "should have had a hundred of them", highlighting how privilege and denial kept her going. Things change when she’s reported for drinking at work, sent home, and eventually fired after 19 years.
She walks into that meeting nine days sober, begging for another chance, and instead gets told, "one day you'll realise this is the best thing that ever happened to you." At the time she doesn’t believe it; in hindsight, she sees it as the push that gave her her life back. Now a licensed clinical social worker and addiction specialist, Ella talks through her approach to therapy, especially acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT).
Rather than fighting every thought, she focuses on values, radical acceptance and asking whether current behaviour lines up with what someone says matters most. You’ll also hear how sobriety opened the door to solo travel, nature photography, and what she calls "healthy alone time" instead of isolating with a drink. Her closing recovery nugget is simple but powerful: "staying sober is a whole lot easier than getting sober" – and she has no interest in starting over again.
If you’re questioning whether your drinking is still "working", her story might nudge you to ask that question a little more honestly.
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