Ep238 – Origins of Anxiety
Ep238 – Origins of Anxiety

Untoxicated Podcast

The chaos and trauma of active addiction is obvious. But what about before we acknowledge alcoholism? What about before we cross that invisible line? The efforts we make to manipulate our partners seem simple, even helpful, on the surface.

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59:50•8 Apr 2024

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Untoxicated Podcast

Matt & Sheri Salis

Sheri and Matt Salis just wanted a normal life – normal marriage, normal careers, a normal house and happy kids. Instead, they lived a life of lies and terror as they struggled with Matt’s alcoholism. While their experience sounds rare, with over 15 millions problem drinkers in America, their alcoholic marriage was all too normal. Matt has been writing about their experiences in alcoholism and recovery for years. On the Untoxicated Podcast, Sheri and Matt talk about it, too. No subjects are off limits as the couple discusses the trauma of active addiction, the pain of early recovery, the destruction and rebuilding of trust, and the impact on their intimate relationship. If you love an alcoholic, the disease will terrorize your relationship. We hope you’ll listen and find healing in our shared stories. For more support from Sheri and Matt, check out their Echoes of Recovery program providing connection and healing for the loved ones of alcoholics.

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Uncovering Anxiety in Alcoholic Relationships

Episode Overview

Understanding the roots of anxiety in alcoholic relationships.
How perfectionism can contribute to addiction.
The impact of manipulative behaviours on partners.
Importance of finding self-worth and respect in recovery.
Practical advice for partners dealing with an alcoholic.

“Detachment and loss of respect sound awful, but they're actually huge blessings.”

In this episode of the Untoxicated Podcast, Matt and Sheri Salis dive deep into the often overlooked roots of anxiety in relationships affected by alcoholism. They candidly discuss how the chaos of active addiction can mask the underlying anxiety that partners experience long before acknowledging alcoholism. Matt shares his journey of realising how his perfectionism and drinking habits contributed to the anxiety and turmoil in their marriage.

Sheri, on the other hand, reflects on her struggle to maintain self-respect while dealing with Matt's manipulative behaviours during his drinking days. They highlight how partners of alcoholics often feel unworthy and anxious, leading to a loss of respect for their alcoholic partners. This episode is not just about the struggles but also about finding respect for oneself and understanding the importance of self-worth in recovery.

With humour and raw honesty, Matt and Sheri offer valuable insights for anyone dealing with similar issues, making this episode a must-listen for those seeking understanding and support in their journey towards sobriety. Whether you're an alcoholic, a partner, or someone who loves an alcoholic, you'll find relatable experiences and practical advice here. Tune in to learn more about the invisible lines crossed in alcoholic relationships and how to reclaim your self-respect.

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