Ep287 – Focus for More Impact with Ayla Fleming
Ep287 – Focus for More Impact with Ayla Fleming

Untoxicated Podcast

Ayla Fleming is a licensed clinical social worker and telehealth therapist practicing in Pennsylvania, New Jersey, and New York. Since specializing in helping individuals, couples, and families recovering from codependency related to addiction,

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Untoxicated Podcast

Matt & Sheri Salis

Sheri and Matt Salis just wanted a normal life – normal marriage, normal careers, a normal house and happy kids. Instead, they lived a life of lies and terror as they struggled with Matt’s alcoholism. While their experience sounds rare, with over 15 millions problem drinkers in America, their alcoholic marriage was all too normal. Matt has been writing about their experiences in alcoholism and recovery for years. On the Untoxicated Podcast, Sheri and Matt talk about it, too. No subjects are off limits as the couple discusses the trauma of active addiction, the pain of early recovery, the destruction and rebuilding of trust, and the impact on their intimate relationship. If you love an alcoholic, the disease will terrorize your relationship. We hope you’ll listen and find healing in our shared stories. For more support from Sheri and Matt, check out their Echoes of Recovery program providing connection and healing for the loved ones of alcoholics.

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Building Self-Confidence and Setting Boundaries with Ayla Fleming

Episode Overview

Building self-confidence is crucial for recovery.
Setting boundaries helps manage codependency.
Early life experiences can shape adult relationships.
Bowen Family Systems Theory focuses on family dynamics.
Self-care is essential for both clients and therapists.

“You can't control somebody else's behaviour, and you certainly can't control addiction.”

Ever wondered how focusing on yourself can impact your recovery journey? In this episode of the Untoxicated Podcast, hosts Sheri and Matt Salis sit down with Ayla Fleming, a licensed clinical social worker and telehealth therapist. Ayla shares her professional insights and personal experiences in helping individuals, couples, and families recover from codependency related to addiction. She opens up about the importance of self-confidence and boundary setting, drawing from her own struggles with codependency since childhood.

Ayla's journey through secondhand addiction trauma offers a unique perspective on how early life experiences can shape our adult relationships and coping mechanisms. The discussion also touches on Bowen Family Systems Theory, a therapeutic approach that emphasizes understanding family dynamics and managing anxiety. Ayla explains how this theory has been instrumental in her practice and personal growth. If you're dealing with addiction in your life or supporting someone who is, this episode provides valuable insights and practical advice.

Tune in to learn more about building self-confidence, setting boundaries, and the power of focusing on your own well-being.

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