Ep316 – Partner Abuse with Lundy Bancroft

Ep316 – Partner Abuse with Lundy Bancroft

Untoxicated Podcast

Lundy Bancroft is the author of the world's best selling book on domestic violence titled, "Why Does He Do That?" He has spent the last three decades counseling men who abuse and consulting with their victims. On this episode, Lundy explains that,

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1:27:066 Oct 2025

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Unmasking Partner Abuse: Insights from Lundy Bancroft

Episode Overview

  • Active alcoholics struggle to address abusive behaviour.
  • Manipulation tactics can be classified as physical abuse.
  • Legal systems often fail to recognise subtle forms of abuse.
  • Societal norms contribute to misunderstanding of abuse.
  • Resentment processing requires revisiting unresolved issues.
"An active alcoholic will never deal with his abusiveness."

Curious about how people cope with the challenges of staying sober while dealing with partner abuse? This episode of the Untoxicated Podcast offers an eye-opening conversation with Lundy Bancroft, a seasoned expert in domestic violence. Lundy, the author of 'Why Does He Do That?', brings decades of experience in counselling abusive men and consulting with their victims.

His insights are invaluable, as he explains why active alcoholics struggle to address their abusiveness and the manipulation tactics often misclassified as physical abuse. Sheri and Matt Salis, hosts of the podcast, introduce Lundy with their usual blend of humour and sincerity. They delve into discussions about resentment processing, likening it to 'Marjorie's pimple', a concept that hilariously yet accurately describes how unresolved issues can resurface until properly addressed.

Lundy's definitions of abuse challenge common perceptions, revealing how actions like sleep deprivation and threats can be just as damaging as physical violence. Listeners are invited to reconsider what constitutes abuse and how societal norms often overlook subtle yet harmful behaviours. Lundy's candid talk about the legal system's shortcomings in recognising these abuses further highlights the need for change.

This episode is not just for those directly impacted by alcoholism or abuse but for anyone interested in understanding the complexities of these issues. With Sheri and Matt's engaging style and Lundy's profound knowledge, you'll find yourself questioning long-held beliefs and eager to learn more. Are you ready to rethink your understanding of abuse and recovery? Tune in for an enlightening discussion that might just change your perspective.

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