Episode 651: Getting Out of a Rut | Life Transitions, Personal Growth & Taking ActionEpisode 651: Getting Out of a Rut | Life Transitions, Personal Growth & Taking Action
Busy Living Sober with Host Elizabeth Chance
Elizabeth "Bizzy" Chance talks openly about a difficult year of feeling stuck, her shift away from a sole focus on recovery, and the scary process of taking action in midlife. She shares how faith, coaching and simple daily steps are helping her move out of a rut and focus on changing herself rather than waiting for others to change.
16:28•23 Jun 2026
Getting Out of a Rut: Bizzy Chance on Fear, Faith and Taking Action
Episode Overview
- Waiting for someone else to change can lead to years of feeling stuck; the only person you can actually change is yourself.
- Small, consistent actions like walking, making phone calls and asking for help can kick-start movement when motivation is low.
- Coaching works best when the person truly wants change; families cannot want sobriety more than the individual does.
- Putting your own "oxygen mask" on first is essential, especially for women who are used to caring for everyone else.
- Faith and trust in a bigger plan can support hard decisions, but they must be paired with practical steps in daily life.
“What if that person never changes? And you're sitting here 10 years from now and you've just wasted it.”
What drives someone to seek a life without alcohol and then ask, "What next?" This episode lands right in that space, as Elizabeth "Bizzy" Chance talks candidly about feeling stuck, bored, and ready for change after nearly 20 years of continuous sobriety. Rather than focusing on recovery alone, she's shifting her attention towards life transitions, coaching, and getting out of a rut.
Bizzy describes a tough year marked by sleepless nights, low motivation and a lingering shock from a personal situation that "substantially changed" her life. She admits she's spent too long waiting for someone else to change and hits the heart of the problem with the line: "What if that person never changes? And you're sitting here 10 years from now and you've just wasted it." You'll hear her talk about fear, faith and action in very down-to-earth terms.
She shares how praying, meditating and looking for "glimmers of hope" helped, but how real movement started with simple, practical steps: getting up early, going for a three‑mile walk in the Florida heat, making phone calls, asking for help and recommitting to her coaching work. Bizzy also reflects on long‑standing patterns of trying to fix others, from sponsoring people in recovery who weren't ready to get sober, to staying in situations where she felt powerless.
She contrasts that with the joy she finds in coaching people who genuinely want change and her decision to focus on women’s self‑care, putting the "oxygen mask" on herself first. Her honesty about fear, ageing, regret, faith and starting again in midlife offers a relatable snapshot for anyone who feels stuck, whether in addiction, relationships or career.
If you're feeling like you're in your own "pity party" and waiting for someone else to save you, could this be the nudge to take one small step for yourself today?
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