Michael Van Meter
Mike Van Meter
Episode 171 - The Living Amends
Episode 171 - The Living Amends
Episode 171 - The Living Amends
Tuesday 23rd September 2025
Uncover the power of living amends in addiction recovery with Mike Van Meter and Lily as they discuss lasting change beyond apologies.
67 minutes
Inspiring
Informative
Honest
Supportive
Healing
About this podcast
Author:
Michael Van Meter
Overview:
Categories:
Recovery Reimagined
Family Recovery from Addiction
Body & Mind
Innovative Treatments & Recovery Paths
Financial Health in Recovery
Links:
Visit site
Episodes:
174 (View all)
Do you want to link to this podcast?
Get the buttons here!Living Amends: Actions Speak Louder Than Words in Recovery
Episode Overview
- Living amends are about changing behaviour, not just saying sorry.
- Addiction often leads to lying, which can damage relationships.
- Direct amends involve acknowledging harm done and making restitution.
- Living amends focus on consistent positive behaviour change.
- Forgiveness from others is not guaranteed; focus on personal growth.
"The family member doesn’t want to hear what you’re going to do... they want to see how well you’ve gotten."
What does it mean to truly make amends? In this episode of 'Recovery Is Possible,' Mike Van Meter, alongside his co-host Lily, dives into the complex concept of 'The Living Amends.' As a former U.S. Navy helicopter pilot turned FBI agent, Mike brings a unique perspective to the table, sharing his personal experiences with addiction and recovery. This episode is not just about saying 'sorry'—it's about transforming one's life and relationships through living amends.
Mike and Lily explore the distinction between direct and living amends. While many people think of amends as simply apologising, the duo emphasise that living amends involve demonstrating a lasting change in behaviour. They discuss the challenges of making amends, especially when it involves family members who have been hurt by addiction. Through their candid conversation, Mike and Lily share how addiction can lead to deception and mistrust, affecting not just the individual but their loved ones as well.
Listeners will hear about the significance of making amends as a step towards long-term recovery and how it requires more than just saying sorry. The episode also touches on the complexities of addiction, highlighting how it can create a cycle of lying and self-deception. With real-life anecdotes, Mike and Lily provide a raw and honest discussion on the importance of accountability and living a changed life as a testament to true recovery.
If you're navigating your own recovery journey or supporting someone who is, this episode offers a compassionate look at the power of living amends. How can you show your loved ones that you're truly committed to change?