God Can’t Help You Until You Get Out of the WayGod Can’t Help You Until You Get Out of the Way
Really Good Shares
Queen Connie Caruso talks with A.J. Daulerio about rage, God, ageing at 96, and 48 years of sobriety, focusing on how faith and AA changed her life. The conversation moves through anger, service, motherhood, grief, and the idea that God can only help once you get out of the way.
55:56•5 Aug 2026
Queen Connie on Rage, God, and 48 Years Sober at 96
Episode Overview
- Pausing in anger and asking, "God, please help" is presented as a simple, practical tool for not acting on destructive impulses.
- Connie describes AA as providing love and structure that allowed her to finally like herself after many decades of self-doubt.
- She suggests that pain can be "good" because it teaches and has driven her to meaningful actions, like writing her book for her daughter.
- Being of service is framed as both self-centred and healing, because helping others makes life feel purposeful and connected.
- Connie argues that constant opinions and self-criticism can block change, and that "getting out of the way" is essential for spiritual growth.
“My biggest need is to give up my impulse. When I'm angry, take a breath and say, God, please help. Because I keep hearing God say, I can't do anything unless you get out of the way.”
What makes a recovery story truly inspiring? In this episode of Really Good Shares, you’ll hear from Queen Connie Caruso, a 96-year-old, 48-years-sober firecracker who’s blunt, funny, and deeply spiritual – but very clear she’s still a work in progress. Connie talks openly about her "vicious temper", grudges, and the kind of rage that once had her slamming a stranger’s groceries onto the floor at the supermarket. She doesn’t sugar-coat it: "My biggest need is to give up my impulse...
You’ll hear how AA reshaped her relationship with God and turned her strict Catholic upbringing into what she calls "my catholicism purified without threat." She credits the "love that's in AA" with helping her finally like herself after 90 years, and she jokes that she’s "never been this popular or famous since I've been drunk." Connie shares about being a flawed mother, hitting her daughter, and still feeling she’s "not that good as a mother" – while also writing a book so her daughter can be proud of where she comes from.
when I'm angry, take a breath and say, God, please help. Because I keep hearing God say, I can't do anything unless you get out of the way." That idea of getting out of the way so God can help becomes the emotional spine of the conversation.
There’s grief for lost friends, zero fear of death, and strong views on liars, users, and "professional victims." Through it all, she keeps coming back to service: "I'm not doing it to get to heaven.
It's just that I'm good at it." If you’ve ever wondered how anger, faith, ageing and long-term sobriety can clash and somehow still co-exist, Connie’s raw honesty might make you ask yourself: what would happen in your recovery if you finally got out of the way?
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