Healing Together: The Story Behind Our New 30-Day DevotionalHealing Together: The Story Behind Our New 30-Day Devotional
Healing Courageously
Randy and Kathy Bort share the story behind their 30-day couples devotional, focusing on healing together through trust, connection, and faith. They reflect on their own imperfect marriage and offer practical ways couples can rebuild emotional safety and closeness one day at a time.
57:31•10 Aug 2026
Healing Together: Rebuilding Love, Trust and Connection in 30 Intentional Days
Episode Overview
- Healing as a couple starts with choosing to move toward each other instead of away, treating issues as a shared problem rather than a personal battle.
- Trust is rebuilt through consistent actions over time, not quick promises or apologies.
- True connection requires intentional habits: putting phones away, listening deeply, being vulnerable, and validating each other’s feelings.
- Self-reflection—owning your side of the street—is more productive than blaming your partner for every hurt.
- Small daily practices, like a 30-day shared devotional or simple “date your spouse” moments, can gradually restore emotional closeness and hope.
“Healing together means shifting from an 'I versus you' mindset to an 'us versus the problem' mindset.”
This episode sheds light on the personal battles against addiction, broken trust, and disconnection within long-term relationships, as hosts Randy and Kathy Bort share the heart behind their new book, *Healing Together: A 30-Day Devotional for Rebuilding Love, Trust, and Connection*. Aimed at couples who feel more like roommates than partners, the conversation is honest, practical, and often gently funny.
Randy and Kathy talk openly about their own 43-year marriage, including infidelity, emotional distance, and seasons where careers and busyness pulled them apart. Out of their work as marriage coaches and their recovery journeys came the realisation that "healing often needs to happen together" and that change rarely comes from one big moment, but from small, intentional steps.
They break down the devotional’s structure: four weeks focused on laying a new foundation, restoring trust and connection, healing the wounds beneath conflict, and building a healthier future. Each day includes scripture, a short reading, reflection questions, a prayer, and a simple action step designed for couples to do side by side. As they read from Day One, they stress moving from "I versus you" to "us versus the problem", and choosing humility, curiosity, and grace over blame.
Key themes include emotional safety, vulnerability, and learning to stop pointing fingers and start self-reflecting. Kathy describes healing as "freedom from my past behaviours" and talks about how dating your spouse—through small, daily gestures—keeps connection alive. Randy shares how he had to earn back trust through “consistent actions over time” and how both partners working on themselves can quietly transform a marriage.
This episode is aimed at couples in recovery, those rebuilding after betrayal, and anyone who senses cracks in their relationship foundation and wants to start mending them one honest conversation at a time. Could 30 intentional days change how two people show up for each other?
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