Humility Around Your Darkness with Jordan BokserHumility Around Your Darkness with Jordan Bokser
I Love Being Sober
Tim Westbrook talks with coach Jordan Bokser about meeting personal darkness with humility, using breathwork and clear values to create a more expansive life. Their conversation touches on sobriety, inner healing and Jordan’s Hardy Method as a structured way to rebuild from challenging experiences.
42:15•15 Aug 2023
Humility, Breathwork and the Hardy Method with Jordan Bokser
Episode Overview
- Facing inner darkness with humility and compassion can be more effective than trying to "kill" or suppress it.
- Breathwork offers a powerful, sober way to reach altered states and process emotions without relying on substances.
- True happiness is linked to alignment across physical, mental, emotional, spiritual and financial aspects of life.
- Clarifying and honestly living by personal values helps people move from a contracted state into a more expansive one.
- Slow, consistent practices build real inner strength, so the "weight" of life feels manageable even without chemical support.
“All that healing really is, is giving love to somebody else's demon.”
Curious about how others navigate their sobriety journey? This conversation between Tim Westbrook and coach Jordan Bokser zeroes in on what it means to face your "darkness" with humility rather than fear. Aimed at people in recovery and anyone wrestling with mental health or addictive patterns, the chat has a relaxed, thoughtful style with plenty of humour and practical tools.
Jordan talks about his own breakdown after a difficult ayahuasca experience and how it pushed him into years of deep work. That period eventually shaped his "Hardy Method", a way of living built on heart-focus, ecstatic energy, action, resiliency, truthfulness and youthfulness. He explains that these principles helped him rebuild his reality and can support others in doing the same.
One of the most striking moments is his description of healing: "All that healing really is, is giving love to somebody else's demon." Instead of trying to "kill" what’s wrong with us, he suggests bringing presence, time and genuine care to the parts we’d rather hide. Tim connects this to recovery by talking about perspective shifts and values, asking whether people are actually living in line with what they claim matters.
Breathwork becomes a core theme, especially for those who are sober but still craving depth. Jordan contrasts psychedelics with breathwork using a gym analogy: you might bench 400 pounds with help, but what happens when the spotter steps away? With breathwork, he says, "you've earned the right to be there" because you build capacity slowly and safely.
Together, they walk through simple earth and water breaths to show how breathing can change a person’s perception of time, calm anxiety and support better choices. If you’re looking for ideas on how to face your own shadows without substances and with a bit more compassion, this conversation might spark your next step—what part of your life are you ready to bring some humble light to?
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