Joe and Charlie\32  8th and 9th Steps

Joe and Charlie\32 8th and 9th Steps

Recovery Radio Network

Steps 8 and 9

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29:4613 May 2009

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Mastering Steps 8 & 9: Joe and Charlie's Guide to Making Amends

Episode Overview

  • Divide your amends list into right now, later, maybe, and never.
  • Consult your sponsor before making amends to avoid causing more harm.
  • Making direct amends is crucial for emotional healing.
  • Financial restitution should be approached with honesty and consistency.
  • Making amends is about freeing yourself from guilt, not gaining approval.
I want you to start making your amends to the right nows. By the time you're through with that, you'll probably be ready to do some laters.

In this episode of Recovery Radio Network, Joe and Charlie dive deep into the complexities of Steps 8 and 9 of the twelve-step programme. If you're familiar with these steps, you know they're all about making amends and addressing past wrongs. But what if the thought of confronting old wounds makes you want to run for the hills? Joe shares a candid story about his own struggles with these steps, offering a practical approach that might just change your perspective.

He talks about dividing his amends list into four categories: right now, later, maybe, and never. This method helped him tackle the daunting task of making amends in a manageable way, eventually working through even the 'never' list. Charlie complements Joe's narrative by breaking down Step 9 into its essential parts: making direct amends wherever possible, knowing when to make them, and understanding when it's best not to.

He emphasises the importance of consulting a sponsor to avoid causing more harm while trying to make things right. Both Joe and Charlie stress that making amends isn't about getting others to like you; it's about freeing yourself from guilt and remorse. The episode also touches on the broader implications of making amends, including financial restitution and dealing with domestic issues.

They share personal anecdotes, like Joe's unexpected reconciliation with his cousin Gary, which highlight the transformative power of these steps. By the end of the episode, you'll have a clearer understanding of how to approach Steps 8 and 9, armed with practical advice and real-life examples. So, if you're grappling with the idea of making amends or just looking for some heartfelt wisdom on recovery, this episode is a must-listen. Who knows?

You might find that tackling your 'never' list isn't as impossible as it seems.

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