Lines of Engagement with Terri Webb

Lines of Engagement with Terri Webb

What drives someone to seek a life with healthier boundaries? This conversation between recovery coach Ellen Stewart and Certified Professional Coach Terri Webb digs into how limits can actually give you more freedom, especially if you’re in addiction recovery or supporting someone who is.

Terri, a 21-year retired Air Force veteran and licensed missionary, explains that for her, boundaries mean protection and staying true to her Christian values: "Boundaries bring freedom." She shares a striking example of becoming the emotional "dumping ground" in friendships and how clearly asking for reciprocity completely changed those relationships for the better. You’ll hear how boundaries connect directly to mental and emotional stability, and why people in recovery may relapse if they set only temporary or inconsistent limits.

Terri and Ellen break down common myths, like the idea that saying no is selfish. Instead, Terri argues that boundaries make you responsible for yourself and encourage others to be accountable for their own choices. Parenting comes under the spotlight too. Terri describes how refusing to keep driving her son to school forced him to take responsibility, showing how boundaries help children grow rather than feel rejected.

The pair also talk about the difference between caring and caretaking, and how sacrificing your identity to "keep the peace" can quietly build resentment. From workplace dynamics in the military to pressures in ministry and the hazards of oversharing on social media, the episode looks at how boundaries show up in everyday life. Terri keeps coming back to three essentials: know yourself, be consistent, and be okay with the consequences of sticking to your limits.

If you’re tired of feeling drained, resentful, or overcommitted, this honest chat might be the nudge you need to start drawing your own lines of engagement—where could firmer boundaries bring you more peace and freedom?