One on One with Coach Blu: FearOne on One with Coach Blu: Fear
Addict II Athlete Podcast
Coach Blu and Marissa talk about fear in many forms, from relapse worries and social media panic to parenting teens during crisis. Callers share their struggles while the hosts offer practical tools to shift from fear towards faith and steady recovery.
1:08:06•29 Oct 2020
Coach Blu on Fear, Faith and Facing Life Without Numbing Out
Episode Overview
- Fear is a survival response to perceived danger, while anxiety is the ongoing worry about potential threats that may not exist yet.
- People can become used to fear and chaos, making calm situations feel uncomfortable, especially after abuse or unstable homes.
- Social media and poorly sourced statistics can dramatically increase fear, so information needs to be filtered with common sense and good sources.
- Practical tools for handling fear include taking time out, deep belly breathing, facing fears, imagining the worst in a controlled way, checking the evidence, and returning to healthy basics like sleep, movement and good food.
- Parents in stressful circumstances are urged to be consistent, use natural consequences, and treat the family as a "home team" rather than trying to avoid conflict out of exhaustion.
“Remember, you burn the same calories if you're going to fear life or if you're going to have faith in life.”
Blu, a licensed substance abuse counsellor, and athletic director Marissa Robinson break down the difference between fear and anxiety, calling fear a "primitive human emotion" linked to danger, and anxiety "the worry about the fear, the potential risk of life." They also play with the classic line that fear is a "false emotion that appears real." You’ll hear them talk about how people can become "addicted to the chaos" of abusive or unstable homes, and why calm can actually feel uncomfortable if you’ve lived in fight‑or‑flight for years.
What makes a recovery story truly inspiring? Coach Blu Robinson answers that by talking about something everyone in sobriety bumps into sooner or later: fear. Recorded around Halloween, the chat has a light, jokey tone—think scary movies and haunted houses—but underneath is a serious look at how fear shows up in addiction, relapse worries, parenting and even politics and pandemics.
Blu repeatedly warns about letting social media and conspiracy posts "mix the pot of fear," stressing the need for common sense and good information. A caller, Donnell, shares how fear and anxiety show up in her recovery group, especially the fear of relapse. Blu responds by reframing intuition as "the gift of fear" and encourages using gut feelings as a safeguard rather than a reason to shut down.
Another caller, Rachel, asks for help parenting teens while her husband is in prison for a DUI. Blu and Marissa gently push the idea of "parenting out of inconvenience," consistency, natural consequences, and treating the home as a team with shared responsibilities.
Blu also walks through ten practical ways to handle fear—from taking a time-out and proper belly breathing to facing fears directly, imagining the worst in a structured way, going back to basics with sleep and exercise, and rewarding yourself for doing hard things. If fear has been running your life or your recovery, how might these tools help you shift a little more towards faith instead?
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