One on One With Coach Blu: Trust, Relationships and RecoveryOne on One With Coach Blu: Trust, Relationships and Recovery
Addict II Athlete Podcast
Coach Blu and Marissa answer community questions about dating in early recovery, rebuilding trust and dealing with lies in relationships. Their conversation blends personal stories and practical guidance on self-worth, honesty and supporting loved ones who are still drinking.
1:04:32•4 Mar 2021
Trust, Dating and Truth in Early Recovery with Coach Blu
Episode Overview
- Treat recovery and sobriety as a value you bring into relationships, rather than something to hide.
- Avoid testing your willpower by dating partners who still drink or use, and stay alert to signs of codependency.
- Know your worth and refuse to shrink yourself just to avoid being alone or to keep a relationship.
- See trust as a gift, not a scoreboard; focus on becoming trustworthy yourself instead of chasing others’ approval.
- When a partner is drinking and lying, address the deeper pain behind the behaviour and use calm, curious conversations instead of confrontations.
“The opposite of addiction is relationship and connection.”
How do individuals turn their lives around after addiction? This episode of Addict II Athlete Podcast brings that question right into the messy, human space of dating, trust and honesty in early recovery. Coach Blu Robinson and athletic director Marissa keep things relaxed and real, answering questions sent in by the community.
You’ll hear them talk through one of the big fears in sobriety: “How do I start dating now that I am sober?” Rather than laying down rigid rules like “no relationships for a year,” they talk about knowing your worth, being honest with yourself, and letting recovery be something you’re proud to bring to the table, not something you hide.
They break dating in early sobriety into clear, practical steps: be forthright, don’t test your willpower with partners who still drink or use, watch for codependency, and practice how you’ll talk about your past. A lot of the episode zooms in on self-respect: as Coach Blu says, don’t “dumb yourself down” just to avoid being alone. The conversation then shifts into the thorny issue of trust.
One standout moment is Blu’s view that trust isn’t earned, it’s gifted – and it can be withdrawn if someone isn’t ready. He and Marissa share stories from their own relationship, including secret-keeping, confrontation, and the long, awkward work of rebuilding honesty one small act at a time. They also respond to a question from a spouse whose husband is drinking and lying, stressing that alcohol is often a symptom of deeper pain.
Instead of attacking the behaviour, they suggest calm, curious conversations about the “why,” setting boundaries, and remembering that you can’t do someone else’s recovery for them. If you’re sober (or love someone who is) and wondering how on earth you’re meant to date, rebuild trust, or stop the lies, this episode gives you plenty to think about – are you ready to treat your recovery as a strength rather than a secret?
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