Overcoming DysfunctionOvercoming Dysfunction
THE NEW YOU
Pastor Lisa McIntosh speaks about family dysfunction, self-love, and relying on Jesus to heal past pain and trauma. Through prayer and practical encouragement, she invites people to step away from conflict and choose a new path rooted in faith and self-acceptance.
10:03•8 Apr 2026
Overcoming Dysfunction with Self-Love, Faith, and Family Healing
Episode Overview
- Family dysfunction is described as regular conflict, neglect, or abuse that creates fear, shame, and instability, often tied to addiction or mental illness.
- Self-love is framed as appreciating, accepting, and valuing yourself in ways that support physical, psychological, and spiritual growth.
- True healing from dysfunction and past pain is said to require the supernatural power of Jesus Christ rather than relying on personal strength alone.
- Refusing to engage in arguments, bitterness, and folly is presented as an act of strength and wisdom, not weakness.
- Listeners are encouraged to cast all cares, trauma, and discouragement onto God and to affirm daily choices to love themselves and follow Christ.
“Disengaging from arguments and folly and anger and bitterness does not make you weak. It makes you powerful, and it makes you wise, and it makes you strong.”
How do people find strength in their journey to sobriety and emotional healing when family life feels chaotic? This episode of THE NEW YOU with Pastor Lisa McIntosh leans into that question by talking frankly about family dysfunction, self-love, and trusting God in the middle of it all.
Pastor Lisa starts by reading a clear definition of family dysfunction – homes marked by regular conflict, neglect, fear, shame, and a lack of emotional support, often linked with addiction, mental illness, or poor parenting. From there, she shifts straight into prayer, lifting up those who feel like the "black sheep" or the most obscure one in their family, and asking that the message would reach their hearts, not just their ears.
The heart of this short episode is the idea that true change comes from the "supernatural power of Jesus Christ" rather than sheer willpower. Pastor Lisa stresses self-love as a "state of appreciation, acceptance, and high regard for oneself" that supports physical, psychological, and spiritual growth. She explains that refusing to get dragged into arguments or bitterness is not weakness but strength: "Disengaging from arguments and folly and anger and bitterness does not make you weak.
It makes you powerful, and it makes you wise, and it makes you strong." She speaks gently to those stuck in past trauma, emphasising that painful experiences may be part of their history but do not have to define their present. With references to Adam and Eve, she highlights the importance of making a conscious decision today to follow God, cast cares onto Him, and allow Him to unearth and heal buried pain.
It all ends with a simple, practical challenge: put a hand on your heart and say, "Today, I'm going to love myself. Today, I'm going to be my best self." If dysfunction has shaped your story so far, could today be the day you choose a new one?
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