Pregnancy and Finding the Right Person With BPD (Feat. Blu)Pregnancy and Finding the Right Person With BPD (Feat. Blu)
Bold Beautiful Borderline
Blu talks about being pregnant while living with BPD, her shift away from drugs and alcohol, and the impact of finding a loving, stable partner and support network. The conversation touches on body image, birth fears, and her hopes for breaking generational trauma as she prepares to become a mother.
46:38•11 Oct 2026
Pregnancy, BPD and Sobriety: Blu on Finding Love and Building a Village
Episode Overview
- Pregnancy with BPD can feel intensely dysregulating, so having a supportive partner and wider village makes a huge difference.
- Letting go of drugs and alcohol as a “cheap vacation” can create space to feel emotions more fully and build a more grounded life.
- Advocating for yourself with medical professionals around weight, medication, and mental health needs is key during pregnancy.
- Learning to set boundaries and choose yourself and your baby over people‑pleasing helps protect both mental and physical health.
- Body changes and weight gain in pregnancy can be psychologically tough, but focusing on health and the baby’s wellbeing offers a more helpful lens.
“I'm not having a daughter to raise her to my expectations; I'm having my child so that I can guide her through life.”
How do people find strength in their journey to sobriety? This candid chat on Bold Beautiful Borderline follows Blu, a returning guest, as she talks through being pregnant in her mid‑thirties, living with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), and reshaping her relationship with drugs and alcohol.
You’ll hear Blu contrast her old life—"dating someone who was eight years younger than me and a fucking idiot" in a mouldy flat full of roaches—with the grounded stability she has now: a nurturing partner, a safer home, and a baby girl on the way. She’s blunt about how hard pregnancy has been with BPD: intense dysregulation, panic attacks, guilt over cancelling tattoo appointments, and those brutal internal voices telling her she’ll be "a terrible mom".
Yet she keeps coming back to a powerful reframe: "15 years of trauma compared to one day" of birth, and pain as "pain with a purpose". Blu’s sobriety is central too. Drugs and alcohol used to be "a cheap vacation", but pregnancy has pushed her to face life sober, relying only on things like CBD and a strong support network.
She talks openly about being unmedicated, choosing not to start psychiatric medication while pregnant, and how that’s forced her to sit with feelings rather than escape them. Body image gets a raw, honest airing: rapid weight gain, body dysmorphia, and feeling "like a whale" in a culture obsessed with thin pregnancies.
Blu describes advocating for herself with medical staff, leaning on a partner who reminds her she’s "literally building our child", and trying to show herself the same grace others offer her. Through humour, tears, and plenty of swearing, this conversation offers a rare look at pregnancy with BPD: the fear, the village it takes, the therapy, and the fierce love for a daughter she’s determined to guide rather than mould.
If you’re wondering whether a future with kids is possible while living with BPD or past substance use, could Blu’s story be the perspective you’ve been waiting for?
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