S6E8 Into Action with LilS6E8 Into Action with Lil
That's NOT in the book!
Agent X and Lil talk about rough starts in AA, parenting through and after alcoholism, and how the 12 Steps and spiritual timing transformed their families. Their conversation mixes Big Book guidance, painful honesty, and humour to offer hope to anyone who feels they’ve gone too far to recover.
58:38•21 Jun 2026
Into Action, Messy Beginnings and Mum Guilt with Lil
Episode Overview
- Recovery often isn’t a straight line; timing, pain, and willingness can turn repeated failed attempts into real action with the 12 Steps.
- Parenting damage in active alcoholism can be huge, yet consistent sober behaviour, honesty, and amends can rebuild deep relationships with children.
- Spiritual timing matters: the AA message may be the same for years, but it only lands when someone is ready to hear it “in the heart, not the head.”
- Sponsoring others teaches practical humility, service, and spiritual principles that spill over into parenting, work, and everyday life.
- You can’t make anyone else recover; alcohol is “the great persuader,” and each person must reach their own point of wanting help.
“"Wherever you are at, you are not too far gone to come back… things can drastically, drastically change for the better."”
How do people find strength in their journey to sobriety? This conversation between Agent X and her long-time AA friend Lil gives a raw, funny, and very real look at what “into action” actually looks like in Alcoholics Anonymous. Aimed squarely at alcoholics and those curious about AA’s solution, the chat blends straight-from-the-Big-Book structure with messy human reality.
Lil talks about her “wavy little commotion” of early AA attempts, insisting it wasn’t a straight line: she thought she’d done the work, but later realised, “with rigorous honesty and fabulous hindsight… no, I didn’t.” You’ll hear how timing, willingness and pain eventually pushed her from half-measures into fully doing the 12 Steps with a sponsor and then sponsoring others. The episode digs into parenting in recovery in a way that will hit home for many.
Lil and Agent X swap stories of drunk mum guilt, secret drinking, terrifying their kids, and the way amends, time and consistency slowly rebuilt trust. Lil describes waking up at 2–4am shaking and drinking beer she didn’t even like, then later sitting with her kids doing the AA nightly review together. Today, both women talk about radical forgiveness, deep relationships with their children, and still needing to make plenty of amends along the way.
There’s lots of Big Book talk too: spiritual timing, “recoiling as from a hot flame”, the third step, and that killer line on page 99 about being sober, considerate and helpful “regardless of what anyone says or does.” Through humour, swearing, and total honesty, the message is clear: you’re never too far gone, you can’t force anyone else to get it, and God shows up in very ordinary, often inconvenient ways.
If you’ve ever thought you’d ruined your kids, missed your chance, or failed AA too many times, could this be the story that keeps you going one more day?

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