S9E5 Put Your Own Mask On First: Daily Habits for Self-Compassion

S9E5 Put Your Own Mask On First: Daily Habits for Self-Compassion

What can we learn from those who have battled addiction and burnout when they finally start putting themselves first? This calming Red Roof Recovery episode from *The Harmonious Mind* series centres on that exact shift: choosing self-compassion as a daily habit rather than a luxury. Mindfulness mentor Tanya McIntyre speaks directly to people who are worn out from caring for everyone else, including many in recovery who are used to ignoring their own needs.

Using the familiar airplane image, she reminds you that, just like on a flight, "self-care is not selfish. It's the maintenance that makes generosity sustainable." Across a gentle, reflective monologue, Tanya lays out simple daily practices that fit into real life, not some ideal wellness retreat. You’ll hear suggestions like starting the day with a hopeful first thought, assuming others have good intentions, choosing one meaningful task when everything feels overwhelming, and being brave enough to ask for help.

Each habit is framed as a tiny, realistic shift that can support sobriety, stress relief, and better mental health. She also invites you to try practical exercises in presence and gratitude: eating one meal slowly and mindfully, going on a “digital diet” to protect your mind from constant advertising, and ending and beginning each day with a sense of thankfulness, inspired by a Tibetan cup ritual.

The tone stays warm, non-judgemental and gently humorous, aimed at anyone who feels like they’re always pouring from an empty cup. Rather than promising overnight transformation, Tanya suggests picking just one habit for a week and seeing what happens. For people in recovery, carers, or anyone who struggles to prioritise themselves, this short episode offers a soothing reminder: putting your own mask on first is what allows you to keep showing up for others without losing yourself in the process.