Sober Sex: How to Get Wet When You’re Dry - with Anna Wolfe

Sober Sex: How to Get Wet When You’re Dry - with Anna Wolfe

What makes a recovery story truly inspiring? For many people, it’s when someone is brave enough to talk frankly about sex, shame and sobriety without hiding behind a glass of wine. That’s exactly what happens as Victoria Vanstone teams up with award‑winning journalist Anna Wolfe to talk about sober dating, consent, desire and learning how to like your own body again.

This candid chat is aimed at anyone who’s ditched booze and is suddenly thinking, “How on earth do I date, flirt or have sex without being half-cut?” Vic admits, “I didn’t really have sex sober until I met my husband,” and Anna jokes that in early sobriety she had to “raw dog life now.

Here we fucking go.” Between the laughs, they talk honestly about regretful one‑night stands, the blurry lines of consent, and why so many women carried shame for situations that were never their fault. Anna shares how alcohol and an eating disorder became a “marriage from hell”, and how sobriety meant starting from scratch with sex and relationships, feeling like a teenager again.

She explains that sober dating eventually became fun, because “you’re actually getting to know a person” and you’ve got the clarity to walk away from bad behaviour instead of excusing it. You’ll hear how both women rebuilt boundaries, worked out what they actually wanted sexually, and learned to separate their self‑worth from other people’s opinions or from their body size.

Anna’s own podcast, How To Get Wet When You’re Dry, keeps the same mix of humour and honesty, proving that recovery and sex can be messy, awkward, and still full of joy. If you’re sober, single, or simply scared of sex without liquid courage, this conversation might have you asking: what do you truly want, and what are you no longer willing to tolerate?