Reframe Your Missteps: The Truth About 'Starting Over'
Episode Overview
Missteps are stepping stones, not setbacks. Binary thinking in recovery can be harmful. Progress is a spiral process, not linear. Embrace learning opportunities from off-plan moments. Use a three-step process to shift your mindset.
"You're not starting over. You're actually evolving."
In this episode of The Alcohol Minimalist Podcast, Molly Watts takes a deep dive into the common misconception of 'starting over' in habit change. If you've ever felt like a misstep meant hitting the reset button, Molly's here to tell you that's simply not the case. With a blend of neuroscience and behaviour psychology, she explores how these off-plan moments are actually stepping stones in your journey, rather than setbacks.
Molly argues that the notion of 'starting over' is not just emotionally draining but scientifically flawed. Through her engaging narrative, she reframes these instances as valuable learning opportunities that contribute to long-term growth and brain development. Molly also sheds light on how cultural perceptions, particularly those influenced by Alcoholics Anonymous, can foster a harmful binary mindset. Instead of seeing progress as a straight line, she encourages embracing a spiral process where each experience adds depth to your understanding and skills.
Alongside references to experts like Dr. Andrew Huberman and Dr. Wendy Wood, Molly presents a compelling case for seeing habit change as an evolving journey. Her practical advice includes a three-step process to shift your mindset when the 'I blew it' voice kicks in: pause the narrative, name the learning, and make a micro move. By doing so, you reinforce your capacity for emotional regulation and aligned decision-making.
Molly's discussion is both relatable and enlightening, making it clear that perfection isn't the goal—progress is. So if you're tired of feeling like you're back at square one every time you slip up, this episode offers a refreshing perspective that might just change the way you approach habit change forever.