What is Aimee says? IG live replay with Anne from Aimee Says - 24/7 support for toxic relationshipsWhat is Aimee says? IG live replay with Anne from Aimee Says - 24/7 support for toxic relationships
The Shiftshow with Adriana Bucci
Adriana Bucci talks with Aimee Says co-founder Anne Wintemute about an AI-based chat tool built to support survivors of narcissistic abuse. They discuss how it structure stories, flags abusive patterns and eases both emotional and legal burdens while prioritising privacy.
26:40•20 Jul 2026
Turning Chaos into Clarity: How Aimee Says Supports Survivors of Narcissistic Abuse
Episode Overview
- Aimee Says turns unstructured stories of abuse into a clear, time-stamped timeline that highlights patterns like gaslighting and blame shifting.
- The app helps survivors recognise love bombing and subtle narcissistic behaviours, reducing the risk of repeating toxic relationship cycles.
- Survivors can store documents and text records, then generate organised, tagged reports suitable for sharing with legal professionals.
- Anonymous use and strict data practices aim to protect privacy, with advice to use secure devices if digital monitoring is suspected.
- Using the tool between sessions can reduce emotional spirals, making therapy or coaching time more focused on strategy instead of constant crisis management.
“Folks deserve to not be tortured by the memories… you can put to rest your history and be your best future.”
What drives someone to seek support when their relationship feels like a constant mind game? This replay of an Instagram Live chat gives you a front-row seat as Anne Wintemute and host Adriana Bucci talk through how the Aimee Says app is helping survivors of narcissistic abuse make sense of chaos. Anne explains Aimee Says as a kind of specialist chat tool powered by AI, designed specifically for coercive control, domestic violence and narcissistic abuse.
Instead of just chatting, the system quietly turns your stories into a structured timeline: "This was gaslighting, that was blame shifting," time-stamped and organised so you can see patterns instead of doubting yourself. You’ll hear Adriana rave about the calendar feature that logs each abusive incident, helping people stop self-gaslighting and recognise love bombing as abuse too.
They talk about dating after a toxic relationship, how different types of narcissists can feel completely different, and why relying on past red flags isn’t enough. As Anne puts it, thinking "I’ve seen it once, so I’ll know it when it happens again" can be a false sense of safety. The conversation also touches on heavy stuff: custody battles, broken systems, and the exhausting job of documenting abuse for courts and lawyers.
Anne shares how Aimee Says can build a detailed, tagged binder in minutes, turning scattered screenshots and text messages into organised evidence. Privacy worries are tackled head-on. Anne describes strict data policies, anonymous use, and practical tips like using a secure device if you suspect keystroke monitoring. Both emphasise that AI won’t replace human connection, but it can stop spirals between sessions and make therapy or coaching time more strategic.
If you’ve ever felt like your reality is being rewritten by someone else, could having an "expert in your pocket" help you reclaim the story?
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