Why 50+ women have to stop apologizing - 144Why 50+ women have to stop apologizing - 144
THE STAR MONROE SHOW
Star Monroe talks about why women over 50 keep apologising, linking it to deep historical conditioning and everyday habits. She shares how processing anger, embracing villain energy and shifting language can help women live desire-led lives without constant apology.
31:26•11 Jul 2026
Stop Saying Sorry: Star Monroe Calls 50+ Women Into Their Villain Era
Episode Overview
- Notice how often you say "sorry" and treat it as a pattern to be studied rather than something automatic.
- Replace apologies with alternatives like "thank you for waiting for me" to stop apologising for existing.
- View anger as a healthy signal of crossed boundaries and learn to process the pain underneath it.
- Recognise that swinging from good girl to bad bitch can feel powerful but usually comes from a wounded place.
- Experiment with stepping into villain energy in playful ways so you can take up space from a grounded, self-respecting place.
“How the fuck can we live without apology if we're always apologising?”
What are the common struggles and victories in addiction recovery? This conversation with Star Monroe zooms in on a different kind of addiction-related pattern: the habit of 50+ women apologising for simply existing. Star shares how her three guiding principles in her 50s – "love deeper, lead bolder, and live without apology" – pushed her to question why so many women keep saying "sorry" for no reason.
Drawing on a striking historical reference from 2350 BC, where a woman speaking out of turn could have "her teeth smashed by a burnt brick", she shows how apology has been wired into women for centuries. You’ll hear her unpack the journey from "good girl" and people-pleaser to "bad bitch" and wounded rebel, and why that "fuck you" energy might feel powerful but usually isn’t sustainable.
Instead, she talks about moving towards a grounded, villain-esque confidence that lets a woman take up space without shrinking or constantly explaining herself. Star also speaks about female rage and anger as important emotional signals rather than something to suppress. She explains how learning to process anger and the pain underneath it helped her hold clearer boundaries and shift out of resentment and bitterness.
A big practical focus is on language: she points out how everyday phrases like "I’m sorry" in supermarkets, queues and social interactions quietly reinforce the idea that women should apologise for being present. Her playful solution? Treat it as a "play assignment" – track how often you say sorry, experiment with alternatives such as "thank you for waiting for me", and sit with any discomfort that comes up.
For women in midlife, especially those working on sobriety and self-respect, this episode offers a bold invitation: stop apologising for your existence and step into your villain era with curiosity and a bit of mischief. What might change in your life if you simply stopped saying sorry?
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