11. Comparison is A Bitch, and NOT an Advanced One
11. Comparison is A Bitch, and NOT an Advanced One

Ask An Advanced Bitch

In Part 1, I tackle a listener question about how to stop comparing herself to other women. I contextualize where this behaviour stems from. Her parents projected their own insecurities onto her by using comparison to other children as a tool to...

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Ask An Advanced Bitch

Elizabeth Kupferman

At some point, hating yourself and reacting to life with trauma responses, addiction and codependency become unbearable, plus it’s not a cute lewk. It can often feel like your neuroses control you and not the other way around. Around here, we believe, like Carl Jung, that our neurosis is our psyche begging us to heal. And so we shall. In that spirit, The Ask an Advanced Bitch podcast provides your weekly dose of no-nonsense and irreverent insights, dark humor, truths, tools and techniques for addressing CPTSD, your particular trauma responses, codependency, grief and loss, and all things recovery to become our most true, self-confident and authentic selves - or as I would put it - an Advanced Bitch. I’m a therapist and coach, but most importantly a bitch who has spent over 30 years in therapy and recovery trying to heal my broken self. I will be dissecting complex issues through both professional lenses and personal anecdotes through answering questions of anyone still suffering. Look, I was the brokenest bitch you ever did meet and I have (mostly) learned to live without self-hate, regret and resentment.. The biggest surprise of all of this Advanced Personal Growth Work has been finding that on the other side of CPTSD is a lot of laughing and magic. Turns out magic is real and life requires fairy dust. Welcome, Bitch.

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Breaking Free from Comparison: A Deep Dive with Elizabeth Kupferman

“We have to decline the engagement of the inner saboteur, because we cannot just turn it off. It feels very like, because if she did, that would reflect poorly on me. So so what it does is it robs you of having the consequence of feeling bad about not, maybe not doing as well on a test as another person it takes away.”

Feeling like you're always in a race with others? In this episode of 'Ask An Advanced Bitch', therapist and host Elizabeth Kupferman takes on the challenge of comparison. She answers a listener's question about constantly measuring herself against other women, tracing this behavior back to childhood. Elizabeth explains how parents often use comparison as a tool to motivate their kids, but it can backfire, leaving lasting insecurities.

She shares a powerful tool she developed to humanize the person you're envious of, helping you break free from the cycle of jealousy. Elizabeth also opens up about her own struggles with seeking approval and how she learned that personal recovery is more important than social media validation. This episode offers a mix of professional advice and personal stories, making it a relatable and insightful listen for anyone grappling with self-comparison and the need for external validation.

Plus, in Part 2, Taylor and Trent join the conversation to discuss 'The Vow', episode 3. Don't miss out on this honest and humorous take on overcoming one of the most common pitfalls in our journey to self-acceptance.

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