121 - How Bad Do You Want It? Stop Negotiating With Yourself121 - How Bad Do You Want It? Stop Negotiating With Yourself
The Chase Life Podcast
Rachel and David Godfrey talk about the shift from "it would be nice" goals to firm, non-negotiable decisions in health and life. They discuss identity, discipline, setbacks, and why many high-achievers give up just before real change takes hold.
46:25•26 Apr 2026
How Bad Do You Want It? Stopping the Constant Negotiation With Yourself
Episode Overview
- Saying "it would be nice" to change is weak fuel; real transformation starts with a clear, non-negotiable decision.
- Beliefs like "nothing works for me" can become part of your identity and cause you to quit just when you are actually on track.
- Writing down feelings of defeat or helplessness helps expose them as stories rather than facts, reducing their power.
- Both health and indulgence come as package deals of pleasure and pain; you can’t take the upside without accepting the discomfort.
- Discipline becomes far easier once you stop negotiating with yourself and decide there is no other option but to follow through.
“"It's not your fault, but it is now absolutely your responsibility to do something about it."”
What drives someone to seek a life where health, business, and family all thrive together? This conversation with Rachel and David Godfrey zooms in on that exact question, calling out the gap between saying "it would be nice" and actually deciding, "I am doing this." If you're a busy high-achiever who's smashing it at work but stuck in a loop with your body or habits, this one hits close to home.
Rachel and David talk frankly about how life changes when careers, kids, and responsibility collide. They push back on the idea that you can change your body without changing your life, with Rachel insisting, "You really have to have a full mind, body, spirit, emotional change" for lasting results.
They highlight how many women feel they've "tried everything" and quietly given up, and Rachel doesn’t mince words when she says, "It's not your fault, but it is now absolutely your responsibility to do something about it." You’ll hear about the difference between interest and commitment, why "nothing works for me" can become an identity, and how people quit right when they’re actually on track.
David explains how setbacks are often part of the learning curve, but old beliefs turn them into proof of failure. They share practical tools like journalling to label feelings of defeat and helplessness so they lose their grip, and they unpack the idea of choosing the full "package deal" of health – the pleasure and the discomfort – instead of trying to cherry-pick only the easy parts.
There’s raw honesty too, as Rachel talks about business stress, migraines, feeling like she’d disappeared from family life, and the moment she said, "this shit is so fucking hard" yet refused to back down. If you’ve been negotiating with yourself about change, this episode might be the nudge to ask: are you truly all in, or are you still sitting on the fence?
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