122 – Fat Loss – Why Nothing Works For You (And Why It's Not Your Fault)122 – Fat Loss – Why Nothing Works For You (And Why It's Not Your Fault)
The Chase Life Podcast
Rachel and David Godfrey unpack why so many women feel that fat loss never works for them, linking it to identity, self-worth and emotional habits rather than diets alone. They outline a simple “house” framework for change and share how shifting who you are being can make weight loss and healthy living far easier.
43:48•2 Jun 2026
Why Fat Loss Feels Impossible (And Why It’s Really Not Your Fault)
Episode Overview
- Lasting fat loss needs strong foundations in identity, self-worth and emotional fitness, not just diet and workouts.
- Believing "nothing works for me" is a learned story, often rooted in shame and low self-worth, rather than an objective truth.
- Motivation is strongest when you face the real cost of staying stuck and genuinely value how healthy living improves daily life.
- Discipline and habit change come from training the emotional "animal brain" with consistent cues, not just analysing behaviour.
- Exhaustion often stems from people-pleasing, workaholism and living as who you think you should be instead of who you really are.
“"It's not your fault, but it is your responsibility."”
What drives someone to seek a life where fat loss finally feels simple instead of like a full‑time job?
This chat between Rachel and David Godfrey goes straight into that familiar belief so many women hold: "Nothing works for me." Rather than blaming willpower or another failed diet, they break down why that feeling makes perfect sense – and why, as Rachel says, "It's not your fault, but it is your responsibility." You’ll hear them describe fat loss like building a house.
Most women are stuck trying to decorate the top floor – workouts, steps, macros and sleep – while their foundations are cracked. Those foundations? Identity, self-worth and emotional fitness. If you’re living from an identity of “overweight, not enough, always proving myself”, then yes, every diet will feel like pushing a boulder uphill. David explains how emotional fitness means learning to steady yourself on the inside instead of relying on food, wine or overworking to cope.
They talk about useful pain (honestly looking at the cost of staying stuck) versus destructive pain (shame and self‑judgement) and why falling in love with healthy living is the only way fat loss sticks long term. Discipline and habits get their own “floor” too.
Rather than over-analysing every slip, they describe using operant conditioning – essentially training your “animal brain” with pain and pleasure triggers – so doing what you said you’d do becomes automatic, even when you can’t be bothered. Rachel also shares her shift away from workaholism, heavy partying and alcohol towards a calmer, more present life, and how that mirrors many of their clients’ stories: less bingeing, fewer cravings, more energy, better relationships… with the fat loss almost becoming the side-effect.
If you’ve ever thought you were the problem because diets never stick, this conversation suggests you might just be missing one key piece of your “house”. Which floor do you reckon you’re standing on right now?
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