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Love Your Life, with Randy Mermell
Randy Mermell is an international coach, speaker, and podcaster. Randy helps people live happy and purposeful lives. Drawing from his own experience from 20 years of happy marriage, raising two daughters, and his success as an entrepreneur, he has helped others get through all types of professional and personal challenges, including love, marriage, children, jobs, and finding passion in everything we do. With over 28 years of sobriety, and success in his own life overcoming low self-esteem, addictions to alcohol, drugs, cigarettes, and coffee Randy draws on his real-life experience to lead meditation and recovery retreats internationally.
37:29•18 Jun 2026
Allow It to Unfold: Letting a Higher Power Calm an Alcoholic Mind
Episode Overview
- Alcoholism is described as a disease of the mind that shows up as an unsatisfiable, fault‑finding, opinionated mindset rather than just a craving to drink.
- Reading Big Book pages 60–63 every morning in the first person helps make Step Three a personal, practical decision instead of an abstract idea.
- A conscious relationship with a higher power, practised right now, can turn everyday stress—like queues and delays—into peaceful experiences.
- Sharing honestly about grief, money, shame, and overthinking shows that applying spiritual principles can shift even long‑standing emotional pain.
- Pausing, asking for guidance, and taking the next small action are presented as simple ways to move from self‑will to a more peaceful way of living.
“It’s a way of life where drinking isn’t necessary, where I can enjoy this day even if I have to be number three.”
What drives someone to seek a life without alcohol? In this meeting-style episode of **Love Your Life**, Randy Mermell shares how alcoholism shows up as "an unsatisfiable, fault-finding, opinionated mind" rather than just a drinking problem, and how a daily spiritual practice becomes the real solution. Recorded from an all‑inclusive 12‑step meeting on Zoom, the session centres on Step Three and the Big Book pages 60–63, which everyone is encouraged to read each morning in the first person.
Randy explains that Alcoholics Anonymous, for him, is less about tips on how to stop drinking and more about living with a higher power so that drinking simply stops being needed. He brings this alive with a simple story: waiting for a blood test while furious thoughts about the queue run wild.
By consciously turning to a higher power and "allowing it to unfold", he moves from inner chaos to calm, leaving as planned without pushing, arguing, or being the "tornado called Randy". It’s sobriety applied in the most ordinary of places. The episode also includes raw shares from group members. Rachel talks about grief, family money, and the noisy craving for "more" that her disease fuels, alongside the relief of making amends.
Sarah speaks about mental health struggles, multiple day‑one resets, and how hearing the programme "a different way" has changed her approach. Matt reflects on long‑term sobriety, late-stage surrender, and practising Steps Ten and Eleven with his sponsor. Adrienne and Camille bring honesty about self‑blame, overthinking, and learning to pause instead of spiralling. The tone is honest, sometimes funny, and very human.
If you’re interested in how spiritual principles work in queues, family drama, and even banana choices at the supermarket, this meeting gives you plenty to relate to. Where might your own life feel different if you paused, asked for help, and let things unfold a little more?
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