391 \\ There’s a Woman Underneath the Drinking; Let's Go Find Her!391 \\ There’s a Woman Underneath the Drinking; Let's Go Find Her!
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Michelle Porterfield speaks to Christian women who feel hidden beneath their drinking and their many roles, inviting them to reconnect with what they truly enjoy and value. The episode focuses on small, faith-centred steps to build a life that feels joyful and meaningful without alcohol at the centre.
20:20•17 Sept 2026
Finding the Woman Hidden Beneath the Drinking
Episode Overview
- Alcohol often becomes a personal ritual and emotional relationship, making quitting feel like grief as well as deprivation.
- Women can lose touch with themselves under roles and responsibilities, pushing their own desires to the bottom of the list.
- Asking questions like “What do I enjoy?” and “What do I want more of and less of?” helps begin the process of self-rediscovery.
- Revisiting activities loved in younger years, such as dancing or swinging at a playground, can reawaken joy and playfulness.
- Assessing whether alcohol aligns with personal values and faith supports building a life where alcohol no longer has a central role.
“How can I become the woman who experiences pleasure, rest, connection, adventure, freedom without needing alcohol to give me that permission?”
How do people find strength in their journey to sobriety? This episode of Set Free Sisterhood focuses on the woman who’s “gotten lost underneath the drinking” and gently asks what she actually wants from her life. Aimed at Christian women who feel trapped in the cycle of drink–regret–repeat, it offers a mix of honest reflection, practical questions, and faith-centred encouragement.
Michelle Porterfield, a “faith-fuelled, no-nonsense coach” who is eight years alcohol-free, speaks directly to women who’ve become everyone else’s person – the mum, wife, caretaker, employee, business owner – and now wonder, “Wait… where did I go?” She suggests that alcohol has often turned into a private ritual: “It’s my time, my reward. It’s my time to shut everything off. It’s my glass of wine.
It’s my little treat after taking care of everyone all day.” You’ll hear her break down why quitting can feel like grief, not just deprivation, because for many women the drink has become a relationship and a symbol of freedom, relief or rebellion.
Instead of making alcohol the main character, she invites women to ask deeper questions such as, “What do I enjoy?” and “What do I want more of and less of?” and to reconnect with younger versions of themselves who loved dancing, swinging at the playground, music, creativity and play. Michelle also talks about living in alignment with personal values and faith, asking whether alcohol is moving someone toward or away from the woman God created her to be.
The tone stays kind and non-judgemental, with the focus firmly on building “a full, meaningful, connected, beautiful life where alcohol just doesn’t even play a role.” If you’ve ever thought, “I cannot believe I’m dealing with this at this age,” this episode may help you see that the timing is “now for a reason” and that underneath the drinking, there’s still a woman worth finding. So, what small step could you take this week to start looking for her?
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