Barb M – How do we ensure our amends are sensible, tactful, considerate and humble?

Barb M – How do we ensure our amends are sensible, tactful, considerate and humble?

Barb M, with 25 years of sobriety under her belt, tackles the tricky subject of making amends in this episode of SoberQ. The question on the table is how to ensure that these amends are sensible, tactful, considerate, and humble. Barb shares her experience, emphasising the importance of honesty and timing in the process. She stresses that rushing into making amends can be counterproductive, highlighting why step nine is step nine and not step one.

Barb’s approach is grounded in understanding that making amends involves dealing with someone else's feelings, not just your own. She candidly talks about the necessity of putting personal thoughts aside and accepting that others may react differently than expected. It's all about being considerate and thoughtful, she says. The concept of humility in making amends might be puzzling for some, but Barb explains it simply: it's not about you; it's about the other person.

Her journey of sobriety has taught her to take herself out of the picture and focus on how others might feel. Barb believes that this step is freeing and rewarding, especially if you take your time and do it right. With new amends always cropping up, Barb remains committed to tackling them promptly, as advised by the subsequent steps. Her reflections are both enlightening and encouraging for anyone navigating their own recovery journey.

So, if you're wondering how to approach making amends with grace and understanding, this episode is definitely worth a listen.