DWC 142: Why Desire Fades with Roxy RuseDWC 142: Why Desire Fades with Roxy Ruse
Deepen with Christina
Christina Weber and Roxy Ruse talk about why desire can fade, how safety and repair affect intimacy, and what it’s like to build an intentional love-centred community together. Roxy shares her journey from a long-term marriage to multiple loving partnerships, while Christina offers a behind-the-scenes look at WeDeepen’s relational approach to team and community.
50:58•10 Aug 2026
Why Desire Fades and How Repair Brings Love Back: Inside WeDeepen with Roxy Ruse
Episode Overview
- Desire often fades when repair is needed but one partner is unwilling or unable to engage in that process.
- A sense of safety and trust is crucial for sustaining emotional and physical desire in relationships.
- Intentional communities offer practice partners, support and a "third" element that strengthens romantic relationships.
- Repair requires slowing down, staying present in discomfort and using structured communication tools such as nonviolent communication.
- Being authentically oneself, and creating spaces where others can do the same, supports deeper connection and more satisfying love lives.
“My sense of safety and my lack of trust was due to a lack of desire to repair within the relationship.”
What drives someone to seek a life rich in connection, desire and honest love? This conversation between Christina Weber and new Community Manager and Events Coordinator, Roxy Ruse, gives you a front-row seat to that process. Recorded on Roxy’s third day in the role, the episode feels like eavesdropping on two close friends who are also building something ambitious together.
Christina shares how WeDeepen treats new hires like new relationships, complete with a three-month “dating contract”, and admits that sharing a fresh partnership publicly is “as tender as telling your friends about someone new.” Roxy brings a candid account of her intimacy journey: transforming a 15-year marriage into a solid co-parenting partnership, loving more than one partner, and embracing her bisexuality through communities like Skirt Club and the kink scene.
She talks about desire fading in her marriage, even after trying therapists, hormone doctors and every conventional route, and eventually realising, “my sense of safety and my lack of trust was due to a lack of desire to repair within the relationship.” The heart of the episode centres on repair, safety and communication.
Christina references nonviolent communication and the idea of practising in community, even with children, while Roxy speaks to the importance of slowing down and creating spaces where people can be “their complete, honest, silly, crazy, annoying, neurotic self.” Together, they highlight how communities like Love Club, Skirt Club and the wider WeDeepen network offer practice partners, support, and a “love council” for couples and individuals alike.
You’ll also hear playful moments, like a round of truth-or-dare and Christina admitting to cultivating a harmless crush “for inspiration and motivation” as she focuses on building WeDeepen. If you’re curious about why desire fades, how repair can rekindle connection, and what an intentionally built love-centred community looks like from the inside, this chat might spark some new questions about your own relationships. What kind of support system are you ready to let into your love life?
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