ML 001: Sex, Pleasure, and Play with Melissa D.

ML 001: Sex, Pleasure, and Play with Melissa D.

What makes a recovery of intimacy and pleasure feel genuinely fun instead of awkward? This conversation between host Christina Weber and somatic sex educator Melissa D. heads straight for that question with warmth, humour, and a lot of real talk. Christina opens by framing love as a skill you can study and practise: “Your intimacy journey is your life story.

I believe that love is a trainable skill.” From there, Melissa shares how she met her current partner on Hinge after years off the apps, why a video call is her first filter, and what felt different about this connection. Their chat moves into the five stages of relationship – from the spark and rupture, through repair and true team, to legacy – giving anyone in partnership a simple map for where they might be.

If you’re curious about sex-positive spaces, you’ll hear Melissa break down play parties, temple nights, and conscious erotic gatherings, including why consent, safety and being witnessed in community matter so much. She explains her work as a somatic sex educator mostly supporting men, highlighting common themes like men using sex to feel close, women often needing heart connection first, and how couples can slow things down to reawaken desire.

Christina and Melissa have plenty of fun, too – from dirty talk tips (starting with “Could you imagine…”) to using everyday objects like a spatula or phone charger to wake up the senses and show that “pleasure is all around and it's always available to us.” They close with a vulnerable round of truth or dare, touching on jealousy, dreams of community living, and Christina’s edgy desires around motherhood and deep surrender.

If intimacy, sex, or long-term love feel like areas you’d like to practise rather than avoid, what’s one small way you could bring a little more play into them this week?