Tanya and Jerry Gioia
Tanya Gioia
Ep 19 When help is unhelpful in Codependent Familes
Ep 19 When help is unhelpful in Codependent Familes
Ep 19 When help is unhelpful in Codependent Familes
Friday 22nd March 2019
Explore how 'unhelpful help' and 'equity rescuing' impact codependent families with Jerry and Tanya's personal stories and practical advice.
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Tanya and Jerry Gioia
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Episode Overview
- Understand how well-intentioned help can become unhelpful.
- Recognise when you're stuck in 'equity rescuing'.
- Learn the importance of allowing family members to make their own mistakes.
- Discover how idolatrous relationships can affect your connection with God.
- Explore ways to break free from shame-based family cycles.
"Unhelpful help is doing something for someone that they can do themselves or don't really want done".
In this episode of 'Sober on Purpose', Jerry and Tanya tackle the complexities of codependent family dynamics. Have you ever felt like you're stuck in a never-ending cycle of family drama? You're not alone. This week, they explore how well-intentioned help can sometimes be more of a hindrance, drawing on the wisdom of Jeff VanVonderen's teachings on shame-based families.
The couple candidly shares their experiences with 'unhelpful help' – you know, those moments when you try to fix things for others but end up creating more chaos. Tanya recounts a tale involving an iPhone case that perfectly illustrates this point. Jerry and Tanya also delve into the concept of 'equity rescuing', where people keep investing in relationships that aren't worth saving, just because they've already sunk so much time and effort into them.
It's like staying on hold with customer service for hours, hoping it'll pay off eventually. Their discussion highlights the importance of recognising when it's time to let go and allowing family members to learn from their own mistakes. As they unpack these themes, Jerry and Tanya offer tools for building healthier relationships and breaking free from harmful cycles. With a sprinkle of humour and heartfelt anecdotes, they encourage listeners to embrace change and take responsibility for their own happiness.
If you're seeking ways to navigate codependency and foster healthier family dynamics, this episode offers valuable insights. So why not give it a listen and see how it resonates with your own experiences?