Ep.60 - 3 steps to plug into a new identityEp.60 - 3 steps to plug into a new identity
E4C: Mindfulness for Millenials
You're probably listening to this podcast because you want to be somewhere different than you are. Here are three of the absolutely critical steps you'll need to take to close the gap between where you are and who you want to be in the future. It's...
13:05•31 Oct 2026
Plugging Into a New You: Three Steps to Rewrite Your Identity
Episode Overview
- Audit the content you consume and align it with how you actually want to feel.
- Use writing to pair new thoughts with matching feelings to increase the chance of positive action.
- Flip the familiar negative spiral of addiction into a conscious, positive cycle of growth.
- Shift from seeking validation from others to proving your progress to yourself.
- Accept that identity change is a long-term practice that requires patience, persistence, and small daily steps.
“If you don't have a clear vision of the future, then you're going to be stuck with the habits of the past.”
How do people find strength in their journey to sobriety? This episode of *E4C: Mindfulness for Millennials* zooms in on identity – especially for anyone tangled up with addiction, old habits, or a life that no longer fits. Garrett Avery, calling himself the "head clown in charge" of Enlightenment for Clowns, brings a mix of humour, honesty and hard-earned experience as he talks about what it really takes to become a "new you".
He openly admits, "I have made so many errors in this life," and uses that raw honesty to connect with people who feel stuck, scared, or tired of repeating the same patterns, including those shaped around drugs and alcohol. The heart of the episode is three practical steps to plug into a new identity. First up: changing what you consume.
Garrett challenges you to look at your favourite shows, feeds and films and write three adjectives for how they make you feel. If those feelings don’t match the life you’re aiming for, he points out, "we've got a mismatch here." It’s a simple exercise, but especially relevant if your go-to distraction has been numbing out rather than healing. Second, he talks about consciously creating new thoughts, feelings and actions – flipping the familiar addiction loop into a positive spiral.
Writing things down at night, pairing thoughts with feelings, and letting small actions add up over time becomes a kind of recovery practice. Third, Garrett urges you to stop living for other people’s approval and start "proving it to you". Instead of waiting for validation from parents, partners or social media, he encourages a slow, patient shift towards self-trust: "I am worthy of the life that I am looking for.
I am deserving of the life that I am looking for." If you’re wondering how to move from being "just a program" to being the creator of your life, this episode offers a candid, playful nudge in that direction. What feelings do you actually want your future self to wake up with?
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