Healing Together: Colleen Kelly on Plural Recovery and Relationship Repair
Sorry is that shame blocks the ability to feel remorse or to empathize. So if you haven't done that kind of inner work, or work around your own shame and come into some kind of relationship with that, it's going to be really hard to have a robust repair with your significant other or with a friend or whoever it is that you need to repair with.
How do our addictions ripple through the lives of those around us? In this episode of the Journey of Integral Recovery Podcast, Colleen Kelly, a licensed marriage and family therapist, sheds light on the concept of plural recovery. She dives into how addiction doesn't just affect the individual but also strains relationships with family and community.
Colleen's expertise lies in understanding and healing these intricate webs of relationships, making this episode a must-listen for anyone looking to mend the emotional damage caused by addiction. Colleen emphasizes the importance of acknowledging the hurt caused by addiction and taking responsibility for it. She explains how shame can act as a barrier to repairing relationships, preventing us from feeling genuine remorse or empathy. By doing inner work around shame, we can approach our relationships with a more open heart.
The episode also explores practical tools like meditation and shadow work, which can help us become more aware of our thoughts and emotions. These practices not only aid in personal recovery but also enhance our ability to connect deeply with others. Colleen discusses the art of repairing relationships, which involves acknowledging harm, expressing remorse, making amends, and following through with actions. Emotional responsiveness and vulnerability are highlighted as key components in this healing process.
This episode offers valuable insights into how to navigate the complexities of relationships during recovery. Whether you're on your own recovery journey or supporting someone else, Colleen's wisdom provides a roadmap for healing together.