Episode 642 Love, Trauma & Returning to Yourself with Salima AdelsteinEpisode 642 Love, Trauma & Returning to Yourself with Salima Adelstein
Busy Living Sober with Host Elizabeth Chance
Host Elizabeth “Bizzy” Chance talks with Sufi guide Salima Adelstein about love, trauma, resentment and spiritual healing of the heart. Their conversation touches on inner wisdom, forgiveness and practical ways to return to a deeper sense of peace and purpose in everyday life.
47:02•21 May 2026
Love, Resentment and Finding Your Way Back to Yourself
Episode Overview
- External expectations can cause you to lose yourself; questioning them and trusting your inner wisdom is essential for a meaningful life.
- Volunteering and service work can reveal what truly nourishes your heart and clarify your purpose.
- Resentment often lives in the heart, and releasing it means opening the heart, asking the Divine for the deeper truth and lesson, and then filling that space with qualities like love or gratitude.
- Trauma can form part of the thread of your purpose, especially when you seek the teaching and growth it offers instead of only the pain.
- A simple daily practice of remembering the Divine through repeating a sacred name can bring calm, soften reactions like rage, and help you live from your true essence.
“You are loved and you are not alone.”
What emotional and inspiring tales of recovery are out there? This conversation between host Elizabeth “Bizzy” Chance and Salima Adelstein brings a spiritual twist to that question, blending sobriety support with heart-centred Sufi wisdom. Salima, introduced as the only female Shadhili Sufi guide in the United States, shares how she went from a tightly knit Jewish immigrant upbringing to becoming a spiritual teacher focused on healing wounded hearts and reconnecting with the Divine.
Her story moves through special education, hospice work with dying children, and the shock of realising her hands carried a healing touch. Along the way, she keeps circling back to one core message: "Trust your inner wisdom" and "Don’t let other people dictate your life." Listeners who feel stuck in resentment, shame or old family stories will recognise themselves in Salima’s honesty.
She talks about growing up surrounded by relatives, craving space to just be herself, and misreading her father’s expectations for years. The moment she finally asked if he was disappointed she never became a doctor, he replied, "Are you nuts? I am so proud of you." That single conversation becomes a powerful reminder to question long‑held assumptions. The episode also gets very practical.
Salima explains how resentment often sits in the heart, why the "ah" sound can soften the chest, and how asking the Divine for the deeper lesson behind our pain can create lasting release.
For anyone in recovery wrestling with anger at God or feeling abandoned, she suggests starting simply: with any form of love, even the love of a pet, because "at the foundation… God is love." If you’re craving peace, curious about spiritual healing, or just tired of carrying old grudges, this gentle, grounded chat might be exactly the nudge back towards yourself that you’ve been waiting for.
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