How To Stay Married (So Far) What Women WANT Part 2 - GOING DOWN; TALKING DIRTY; OBJECTIFICATION!!How To Stay Married (So Far) What Women WANT Part 2 - GOING DOWN; TALKING DIRTY; OBJECTIFICATION!!
How To Stay Married (So Far)
Nadia Sawalha and Mark Adderley have a candid, often funny conversation about what women may want in bed, including oral sex, talking dirty, domination and objectification. They reflect on fear, vulnerability, performance pressure and public affection within a long-term relationship.
38:00•24 Sept 2026
Sex, Honesty and Awkward Laughter: What Women Want in Bed, Part Two
Episode Overview
- Many women may want oral sex but feel uncomfortable asking, while some men are anxious about giving it.
- Treating orgasms as compulsory for both partners can create pressure and reduce enjoyment.
- Talking dirty or asking for specific acts often feels risky because it exposes sexual vulnerability.
- Desires for domination or objectification can be healthy if they’re consensual, shared and grounded in an otherwise rich relationship.
- Parents and people in shared homes may struggle to relax sexually because their nervous systems stay on high alert for interruptions.
“Intimacy isn't just about sex, it is about vulnerability.”
What makes conversations about sex in long-term relationships so awkward yet so funny? This chat between Nadia Sawalha and Mark Adderley leans straight into that tension, mixing blunt honesty with plenty of silliness as they continue their series on "10 things women really want in bed, but rarely say out loud". Here, they tackle oral sex, talking dirty, domination, objectification and the pressure to always reach orgasm.
Mark admits that many men are "petrified" of going down on women, while Nadia questions the kind of sex advice that suggests women should demand four songs’ worth of oral attention, calling it "the most terrible advice I've ever heard". A standout discussion centres on reciprocity and performance anxiety – that unspoken feeling that both partners must climax for sex to be considered "successful".
The tone swings from outrageous humour (including cringe-inducing anecdotes about misused slang and restaurant mishaps) to quietly serious reflections on intimacy and fear. Nadia highlights how many women feel nervous asking for what they want, especially around things like talking dirty or being dominated, because "intimacy isn't just about sex, it is about vulnerability". Mark, meanwhile, shares how requests from past partners have sometimes felt intimidating but ultimately exciting.
They also touch on public affection, cultural stiffness among British men, and how constant vigilance as parents or housemates can choke off desire – with nervous systems that "rarely get a true off switch". By the end, Mark blurts out, "I love your body. I want you to get your kit off and I just want to look at it," while Nadia coolly reminds him the dishwasher comes first.
If you're in a relationship and struggling to talk about what you actually want in bed, this candid, joking-but-serious conversation might get you thinking: how honest are you really being with your partner?
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